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  • #31
    i did A LOT of stupid things. amazing it was just sitting at a red light at 8:30 a.m. is what did this to me. i made so many wrong choices and was ok. i really think ppl should not question the "why" too much. it'll drive you crazy.

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    • #32
      Originally posted by pianodave
      Interesting topic...a couple weeks before my SCI, I randomly wondered what it would be like to be paralyzed.

      Guess I found out!
      A month becore my SCI I was practicing to see if it was true that once you lose an eye, the other eye sees a larger area than before. Around the same time I heard Christopher Reeves ask some guys to tie themselves to a bed and then they would understand us. I also tied myself down and knew I couln't like to be in that situation. I doubt that I see alot more with my left eye than before the day of my SCI. The second bullet burned some of my right eye.
      AstrO

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      • #33
        I am new also, but all we've told my son-
        is that whatever isn't working now.......... thats what they (and he)
        will have to work on, in rehab.
        As soon as he's released from CCU and is transferered to rehab,
        those are the issues (functions) that rehab is a specialist in, and will
        work hard at trying to regain use.
        He's looking forward to it, and tries to show visitors the things he can do..
        Bob B
        SCI - Parent

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        • #34
          I was in the hospital for almost a year...and every1 let me believe I would walk out and when I finally did figure out that I'd never walk again I flipped out...I had my hopes up for so long thinkin I was gunna b completely normal then I can't swing my legs off the bed...it scared the shit outta me don't wait to tell your son it will destroy him n make it a lot harder for him to except...I hope I helped ya a lil bit...peace & love, Armesia

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          • #35
            Wow, I know this original post is ages old, but my doc told me within 48 hours.

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            • #36
              Nobody told me anything, I was sure it was going away the same quickly as it came. I understood it myself when I came to the rehab after two month in hospital. But as I have said before, I was one of the lucky ones who was walking out.
              TH 12, 43 years post

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              • #37
                I would be interested how this particular situation turned out. Anyone have any current news?

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                • #38
                  Brian I just searched too but she hasn't been back for a long time. Would love to hear a good update. Or maybe he is on here now???

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                  • #39
                    I'm a noob here, but reading through this thread blew me away.

                    In the ER my husband kept saying he was paralyzed. I know that sometimes that happens with trauma and can be reversed so I kept telling him we had to wait for the doctor.

                    In ICU, the neuro came in while I was still in the waiting room and laid it out for him in no uncertain terms. He was a para and it was permanent. . . I didn't find out until they let me into ICU and showed me his scans and x-rays. Talk about getting a reality check, two of his vertebra were shattered - basically obliterated. However, the blunt and frank discussion (I told the doc to not candy it for me, to give me the profressional version, not the family version), cleared my head for what was to come.

                    I had to tell his mother, his family, and his best friend. Calls I won't ever forget.

                    Then I had to suck it up and work with the docs on things like a DNR and a treatment plan. He was in no condition to evaluate the options. He lapsed into a coma soon after from pneumonia and stayed there for several weeks. When he woke up, all memory from before the accident was gone and I had to tell him he was paralyzed all over again and that he had been asleep for six weeks.

                    Oh yeah, dealing with medicaid and social security had to be fitted in as well.

                    Everyone looked at me like I'd volunteered to fly a suicide mission over enemy territory - proud and afraid at the same time.

                    I cannot believe a doctor would force a family into that situation by not being up front with their patient. After everything I described above, I still felt lucky that the original neuro leveled with him and me and cleared the way for everything else I had to do over the ensuing weeks.

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                    • #40
                      I had a premonition. however In my dream i was killed when the car hit me. it was only a few days later. also, for the second fire. that premonition was very acurate, and allowed me to get my family out. also as to the cause. I knew where the fire marshals should look for the cause, which the person who started it tried to blame it on us and claimed not to be in the building, but well she had no eybrows and singed hair. we found eleven crack pipes rolling around under the chared springs of what was left of her bed. I still don't believe these things happen for any reason. but that something can and does warn us.

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                      • #41
                        Originally posted by woman from Europe View Post
                        Nobody told me anything, I was sure it was going away the same quickly as it came. I understood it myself when I came to the rehab after two month in hospital. But as I have said before, I was one of the lucky ones who was walking out.
                        I was told I would make a full recovery. I am glad I recovered as much as I did, but long term affects are what gets me now. I think I am regressing though in some ways.

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                        • #42
                          I was doubling William Shatner doing a motorcycle stunt in 1973. I remember when I left the bike and was flying thru the air, I heard a voice as clear as could be telling me that I would be okay. It was so clear it startled me. I landed with a thud that broke my back. I kept trying to get up but couldn't and thought oh shit I'm going to have to reshoot the gag(stunt). Shatner came running up and was holding my hand; this girl I picked up the night before wanted to be by my side. I said it ws okay. She grabbed my hand and held it to her chest and blurted out to Shatner" I've been wanting to meet you all my life". It ws so funny I cracked up laughing, even though I was so injured.

                          The nuero at the ER told me that I was broken and would more than likely never walk again. Course I thought he was full of bs cause I had been injured before, not back, and walked away from them.

                          The voice was right, even though I can't walk, everything turned out better than all right.

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                          • #43
                            I think people need to be told what their condition is not what their future will be. The human spirit is a wondrous thing unless it is broken. There should not be false hope but at the same time hope should not be taken away. I was told early on and often that I would never walk again and that my injury was complete. Well I did not know what complete meant, I thought they were saying my spinal cord was completely severed in two which was not the case at all but I would not find that out till almost a year later. It seemed impossible that I could recover and I did not. They went out of their way in my opinion to make sure I had no "false hope" at all. Well they are practicing medicine and do not know it all and I think things might turn out different if doctors were not so set on telling people they will never walk again....

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                            • #44
                              She grabbed my hand and held it to her chest and blurted out to Shatner" I've been wanting to meet you all my life".
                              Well, it was Shatner after all . . .

                              That is one of the funniest things I have ever read and a memory to cherish from your ordeal. Congrats on coming out the other side.

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                              • #45
                                Thanks T/6. From your post it sounds like you are like my wife; very straight forward and dedicated. I feel very blessed having her as I'm sure your husband does you.

                                It is one of my favorite stories for sure.

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