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How long does it take until your injury is not your life?

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  • #16
    your husband wants you back as you were, my guess. he thinks that's gonna happen. physically, it may or may not. mentally, i think it will never be like it was. you have gone thru a severe trauma.

    i agree that counseling can help. if you don't like 1, change.

    it's really hard but facts are facts. i saw so many tbi's in rehab it made my sci look like a blessing.

    i hope he can just give it time. you are still you.


    • #17
      My son is 14 months post injury. He is handling it better than me. He has been confined to bed due to stage 4 pressure wounds from hospital and rehab and we are finally almost at the point of healing them. There are 3 closed and a 4th only open about the size of an orange pit to close on his sacrum. He has one on his heel taking a long time but it too will heal. To put a time limit on these kind of things is pointless. You have to mourn your loss I would imagine and learn to live your life differently. I am thankful every day for the progress David has made because he will be able to go to outpatient rehab again soon and get on with his life. Yet, there is still a part of me as a mother that sees him walking and running and playing golf and basketball and all the things he used to do. I still look at him and wonder if the pain of seeing him like this will ever go away. My point is, if I feel like this and I am not the injured one, how does the one with the sci feel? As with everything, some deal with things better and faster than others. Take your time and you will feel better about things.
      DavesMom, Diane


      • #18
        Miklb, if you can keep the UTI's and skin sores under control, the rest is easy.

        Stay busy, too, mentally and physically.
        The first 37 years of my injury went by fast because I was either working or going to school. Now that I'm involuntarily retired, depression is at the doorstep.


        • #19
          I missed the 2nd aniversary of my injury, just forgot. I will be 3 years out in exactly 1 month. My constant goal now is to help my wife by doing as much as I can no matter how long it takes. Your attitude is your determining factor. could have been MUCH worse. Best of luck and success. You are loved here. Your family is loved here.
          Dave E. C6-7 Incomp. Quad 9-06



          • #20
            Thank you so much for all the replies. The support is really uplifting and humbling. I tried to not talk about it or complain out loud so much this week. I also kept at the therapy which is always good, though it makes me so tired. I'll think about the counselling too. It's always hopeful to hear stories of recovery after years.

            It's been such a year for all of us. For me w/ my SCI, my husband who was injured too resulting in TBI, and my poor kids (4 & 6 yrs) who saw it all, did without us, and have to adjust to the new us. What a year of hospitals, doctors, therapy and caregivers. We're all so ready to wake up and have it be over.

            But instead, it's all different now. Parenting, marriage, career, getting out & doing things, staying in & doing things. And that's hard to sort through. Given it is what it is, now I have to figure out what I'm going to make of my life today anyway.

            Thanks again for the support. It is so wonderful.