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    I can laugh about this now but when the guy asked me this 9 months post injury I was stumped and at a loss for words, this happened 21 years ago before I met my husband.

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    #2
    used to happen to me a lot. I dont think Iv ever answered.

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      #3
      Originally posted by jody View Post
      used to happen to me a lot. I dont think Iv ever answered.
      Amazing isn't it? my husband totally understand everything including my catheter so we're still together thank goodness.
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        #4
        Hahaha @ "lady parts", classy guy Wouldn't he have liked to have "known" Good for you!
        "The sweet is not as sweet without the bitter"
        ~"Vanilla Sky"~

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          #5
          What a guy. I have been asked similar things. One guy said to me (we were not on a date thank God) he thought disabled people could only have sex with other disabled people and would be willing to have sex with anyone as long as they were clean. Ummm.. thanks.

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            #6
            Originally posted by ivyanna View Post
            What a guy. I have been asked similar things. One guy said to me (we were not on a date thank God) he thought disabled people could only have sex with other disabled people and would be willing to have sex with anyone as long as they were clean. Ummm.. thanks.
            what an a-hole, that's sooo funny and yet so disturbing.

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              #7
              yes, and then when I corrected him on that misinformation he invited me to do something with him.... no thanks. I used to take a car service to an internship when I was at school and he was one of the drivers... a few of the other drivers were the same way.

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                #8
                men can be so stupid sometimes, lol
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                  #9
                  but, to be fair, I'm sure men with sci have had just as dumb comments, if not more, from women. I think the difficult thing that men deal with, that women don't, is that their "male parts" working or not is more obvious. It just adds another layer to sexuality and sexual relationships/interactions that women can't comprehend (at least on direct experiential level).

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by chick View Post
                    but, to be fair, I'm sure men with sci have had just as dumb comments, if not more, from women. I think the difficult thing that men deal with, that women don't, is that their "male parts" working or not is more obvious. It just adds another layer to sexuality and sexual relationships/interactions that women can't comprehend (at least on direct experiential level).
                    Women are more nurturing I think and wouldn't be as crude about it.
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                      #11
                      Originally posted by fynalefree View Post
                      Women are more nurturing I think and wouldn't be as crude about it.
                      Don't you believe it, and it's not only women who can't resist asking the big question!

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                        #12
                        Originally posted by Timaru View Post
                        Don't you believe it, and it's not only women who can't resist asking the big question!
                        Really? are they rude about it or harsh?
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                          #13
                          Originally posted by Timaru View Post
                          Don't you believe it, and it's not only women who can't resist asking the big question!
                          Yes. Sexuality and identity can be so tied to the size and function(ing) of a man's thing, and men themselves can be vicious perpetrators of this concept/myth.

                          It's so ingrained since boyhood, I can't see how it can just be easily shut out after an sci.

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                            #14
                            I hate those stupid questions. And it always happen when I am out, having a good time.

                            One time I knocked one ugly, stupid man down because he was screaming all over the pub that I had to f... him because nobody else wanted since I was in a wheelchair. Not very ladylike to hit a man down so he was lying on the floor.
                            TH 12, 43 years post

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                              #15
                              Originally posted by fynalefree View Post
                              Really? are they rude about it or harsh?
                              Women can be rude and harsh about it, and we've even seen it done in these forums. It can be an easy attack on a man and his 'manhood'. Even if it's done in jest, it can be an extremely sensitive topic for some men and sometimes, people forget or don't care to appreciate that, even being outright dismissive.

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