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    #16
    Originally posted by Le Type Fran├žais
    Umm okay...
    Ha, yeah that's about all I got too

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      #17
      Alrighty then,
      To continue:
      I got up early to meet a contractor guy at the Home Improvement place to pick paint for my bedroom. His MO is to tell me his plans and then not follow through and then not call for two weeks. I'm mostly mad cause I put up with crap, too often. I paid him (too much) for some past work and left to study at college.

      Tried to do my 3D Computer Aided Design. Software has bugs. Very frustrated. Teacher is very little help when I go to class.
      Waste a lot of time trying to draw a simple thing.

      Again there's a leak in a plastic bag I cathed into. My cushion and pants are wet. I can't use this method any more.

      Library closed early so I went to a bookstore cafe to study. I had vending machine snacks for lunch early. I hate eating unhealthy. But, I didn't plan ahead.
      The math studying was difficult. Maybe short on protein for my brain!
      Felt a little like I was a spectacle to other customers.
      Went across to a family restaurant. Eating alone felt a little strange. I wanted something healthier than at the fast food places next door. What I had (chicken in a salad) didn't seem too healthy. Chicken was coated with something and there was way too much dressing.
      Home to mom.
      I am late for my bowel routine. She has to dump the poop cause I can't get into the bathroom.
      I'm sure there will be more to come!
      Rich

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        #18
        Originally posted by pararich
        Alrighty then,
        To continue:
        I got up early to meet a contractor guy at the Home Improvement place to pick paint for my bedroom. His MO is to tell me his plans and then not follow through and then not call for two weeks. I'm mostly mad cause I put up with crap, too often. I paid him (too much) for some past work and left to study at college.

        Tried to do my 3D Computer Aided Design. Software has bugs. Very frustrated. Teacher is very little help when I go to class.
        Waste a lot of time trying to draw a simple thing.

        Again there's a leak in a plastic bag I cathed into. My cushion and pants are wet. I can't use this method any more.

        Library closed early so I went to a bookstore cafe to study. I had vending machine snacks for lunch early. I hate eating unhealthy. But, I didn't plan ahead.
        The math studying was difficult. Maybe short on protein for my brain!
        Felt a little like I was a spectacle to other customers.
        Went across to a family restaurant. Eating alone felt a little strange. I wanted something healthier than at the fast food places next door. What I had (chicken in a salad) didn't seem too healthy. Chicken was coated with something and there was way too much dressing.
        Home to mom.
        I am late for my bowel routine. She has to dump the poop cause I can't get into the bathroom.
        I'm sure there will be more to come!
        Pararich, I understand your frustrations. Reading your post reminded me of what I went through. After I got injured and returned home my living conditions were unaccessible too. In time, your home will get fixed up. What I can share with you is get at lease 6 quotes from different contractors. Throw out the lowest bid because this guy will find problems and end up being the most expensive. What you are doing is right. That is why God gave us a brain. I am not being smart about this. In time it gets easier. I see you are newly injured.

        I see you are studying CAD. Great field to go into. I did too. It is a wonderful job! My work is very excting and I do many different design types, 2D, 3D modeling, solid modeling, electrical schematics, piping and instrument diagrams aka P&ID and some AutoLISP programming. The need for CAD designers is great. Keep studying and never give up until you have that degree in your hand. Then look for a job working the United States Government like NASA or the Department of Defense.

        Go for tutoring if you need help. Don't look at tutoring as "I am dumb and I don't know this material" but as getting an academic edge on the material. Encourage study groups with classmates.

        There were days I had accidents too. Remain cool and collected and don't say anything but take care of getting clean up. Expressing your frustration around others make you look dumb. Keep your composure and just leave. Life gets better with a SCI. The rewards are plentiful and beautiful too. Life gets better too. Carry a plastic trash bag in your vehicle or backpack to sit on if you do have an accident.

        A very good tip to share with you while you are in college. In class ask a lot of questions even those "stupid" ones. Believe me there is someone sitting there afraid to ask that question. There is a very good reason why I posted this tip. Do it and you will find out in time.

        Being angry and frustrated doesn't help the situation. Problem solving and taking care of the matter is a more constructive way with dealing with the problem. So there is really no need to be bitching or complaining. Each morning when you wake up it is only you to make the choice to be a complainer or make the best of your day and be a winner.

        Something to think about? What would Christopher Reeve do in your situation?


        titanium4motion
        "We must overcome difficulties rather than being overcome by difficulties."

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          #19
          Actually, bitching and complaining can be constructive. It helps to get the trash out of our systems. It's important to d/l the junk somewhere. At least here, most people know and understand.

          Apparently not everyone gets the therapeutic value of saying what needs to be said, but I say go for it, Rich.

          I'm not farking Christopher Reeve, nor do I want to be, Titanium. We each find our own role models when and if we find them. If CR does it for you, that's great, but dude wasn't Jesus. Even then, Jesus only works for someone if that is her/his role model.

          Rich, what you've described is uber frustrating. Dealing with contractors who don't show or call or follow up is maddening.

          Yes, that eating alone in a restaurant thing feels uncomfortable at times. I'm okay with it when I do it, but it took time to get there.

          You had a big time frustrating day in a dozen ways, big and small. Anyone would feel the stress of it.

          Ahhhhhh, yes. Having help with the most personal of care for what we once did without thinking. Nohing like it to cap off an otherwise PITA day.

          As for d/l-ing what we need at CC, I think it's one of the things we do for each other best. We listen, share, undertsand. We say things to each other here we'd never say to anyone else. Sometimes we're able to first find a voice for what we need to do in life on these forums that would not otherwise be spoken or even done.

          Keep posting what you find frustrating, a PITA, unbearable because chances are many of us have had it happen, too. Maybe it didn't all happen in the same day, but chances are it's happened to someone else here, too, if not most of us.

          I hope tomorrow and the rest of your week are much improved, Rich. Sending **hugs**.

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            #20
            Originally posted by titanium4motion
            Would Christopher Reeve bitch and complain?
            Who cares? But, I can't imagine that he did not complain when it was appropriate. Who doesn't?

            What do you have to bitch and complain about?
            Do you want a list? Start with the fact that I am in severe pain 24/7 and that I haven't had an orgasm in about 20 yrs and, well, do you really need to hear anything else?

            Life is good!
            Life is great!
            Most of the time, but life can suck pretty hard on some days, too.

            Expressing your frustration around others make you look dumb.
            It does? Why?

            Being angry and frustrated doesn't help the situation. Problem solving and taking care of the matter is a more constructive way with dealing with the problem. So there is really no need to be bitching or complaining. Each morning when you wake up it is only you to make the choice to be a complainer or make the best of your day and be a winner.
            Oh, fer pity's sake... I'm sorry, but this is getting rather trite. Of COURSE it's up to each individual to make the best of their situation on a daily basis, but that doesn't mean that it's wrong for one to vent when they are feeling frustrated. It's just not possible for someone to be happy ALL the time and expressing negative emotions can be cathartic. As Mem noted, venting can be constructive. It releases tension and voicing one's emotions can help one focus and find solutions sometimes too. Denying someone that is unhealthy.

            Something to think about? What would Christopher Reeve do in your situation?
            Um... I think you may be taking hero worship to an uncomfortable, new level. Do you honestly believe that Reeve would have welcomed this sort of adoration?

            C.

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              #21
              I add something but I'll avoid the line by line dissection/over-analysis and take a pass.

              I'll sneak in that Christopher Reeve was a fricken' movie star, probably welcomed adoration.

              I seperated my comments to make picking at them easier

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                #22
                Originally posted by alpentalic
                I add something but I'll avoid the line by line dissection/over-analysis and take a pass.
                Take a pass on what? Adding something? What are you adding?

                I'll sneak in that Christopher Reeve was a fricken' movie star, probably welcomed adoration.
                How can you say that? How much of a star was he? Are you sure he liked the spotlight?

                I seperated my comments to make picking at them easier
                Gee, thanks. But you didnt seperate them well enough, you should have started a new paragraph mid-way though a sentence.

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                  #23
                  Originally posted by titanium4motion
                  Would Christopher Reeve bitch and complain?

                  What do you have to bitch and complain about?

                  Life is good!
                  Life is great!


                  titanium4motion
                  he was human! everyone bitches and complains sometimes. yes, even super man. don't be ridiculous.
                  Never take life seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway

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                    #24
                    Ahhhhhh! Building contractors........

                    ......... pass the shotgun!

                    Never ever pay more than 25% in advance and always ask to see some of their past work, also talk to the home owners.

                    If the contractors good he'll be delighted to show off his previous jobs.

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                      #25
                      I got a fresh ray of sunshine for this thread...I cost myself some $250 last night being an idiot. Gotta buy a new motherboard for the Super Lazy Man Special Computer System.

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                        #26
                        I was actually really encouraged by Ti for Motion's post.
                        But, I also think venting is good... in the right setting.
                        Today's going okay, so far.
                        It's a long full day of classes on Mondays.
                        Gotta go.
                        Awesome to read everyone's posts during my break.
                        Rich

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                          #27
                          Funding for home modifications & college

                          Pararich, you indicated funding was tight for home modifications. Two quick sources to look into. Part of the ADA parking ticket fines go into a pot that goes back into the community for people with disabilities to modified their homes. Check with City Hall with this. Try the ADA coordinator first. This money can pay for ramps, kitchen mods, bathroom mods, shower chairs, wheelchairs, lifts to your basement, you name it. Each year the funding is different due to the amount collected from tickets.

                          Next each city had an Office of Community Development that deals with HUD loans. Contact the director of the Community Development at City Hall and ask him about low interest loans to fix your house up because you are a new 'chair user. I was able to get a 20 year loan at 2.99% that paid for a new kitchen, widen doorways, high efficiency furnace, air conditioner, house rewired, all triple pane casement windows and new doors, insulation, a fence and the money I saved as being general contractor I was able to get my bathroom modified too.

                          Look into it when you have time. I have more for you soon.

                          I hope you found funding to send yourself to college? My college degrees, three of them were paid for by State and Federal tax dollars. Plus the added perks of books, supplies, software, computer equipment, shower chair, titanium 'chair, van modifications, lift, swivel seat, remote starter, and hand controls. Believe me money is out there. If you are not going to spend it? Some one else will! If you don't? What a pity. I know that!

                          Again? What would Christopher Reeve have done? Bitched and complained? Or did something postive and constructive? You pick?

                          titanium4motion
                          Last edited by titanium4motion; 23 Apr 2007, 8:52 PM.
                          "We must overcome difficulties rather than being overcome by difficulties."

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                            #28
                            Originally posted by titanium4motion
                            Pararich, you indicated funding was tight for home modifications. Two quick sources to look into. Part of the ADA parking ticket fines go into a pot that goes back into the community for people with disabilities to modified their homes. Check with City Hall with this. Try the ADA coordinator first.
                            Where do you live??? I doubt there has ever been a ticket wrote in my town for ADA parking ticket fines. As most of the regular posters here will agree....most police dont write them and Jazzyjeff can tell you lots of his experiences with calling cops/security on the carpet for not ticketing violators. So I would be interested to know how much money your city hall has collected this year???

                            I really dont care what Christopher Reeve wouldve done....as I only worship God. How do you know he didnt Bitch and Complain???? Did you live with him???

                            You are a very intelligent man and your "what would christopher Reeve dos" are making you look a bit "psycho".
                            T12-L2; Burst fracture L1: Incomplete walking with AFO's and cane since 1989

                            My goal in life is to be as good of a person my dog already thinks I am. ~Author Unknown

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                              #29
                              Originally posted by darkeyed_daisy
                              Where do you live??? I doubt there has ever been a ticket wrote in my town for ADA parking ticket fines.
                              Well, now, I know that I've received tickets for parking in a handicapped spot without my placard on display. In one case, the placard had fallen off the dash, so the cop couldn't see it. In another case, I had left my placard in my other car and parked in the spot anyway.

                              So I would be interested to know how much money your city hall has collected this year???
                              I'm a little curious about that as well. Also, what are the guidelines for distributing such funding? I seriously doubt that I would qualify for any. In fact, when I talked to our city planner's office about modifying our driveway and the sidewalk in front of our house to lessen the grade on the approach (it's a bit scary for someone using a wheelchair now), I was told that we have to pay for it ourselves and also have to pay $350 for the permit allowing us to modify the sidewalk.

                              You are a very intelligent man and your "what would christopher Reeve dos" are making you look a bit "psycho".
                              Yeah, it is starting to get a bit creepy.

                              C.

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                                #30
                                Aww heck, I got something new to bitch and complain about...

                                I'm getting sick of reading everyone bitching and complaining!

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