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    Style versus substance

    Something I've been thinking about for awhile and a couple of new threads have eluded to it.

    After suffering our injuries the way we do things, I'm assuming for most of us, is different. Everyday tasks are not as graceful as we twist and contort our bodies to bathe, dress, cook, clean, work, etc. And whenever I talk to new patients and their families the tears surface as they struggle with all of the adaptations in their post sci condition. And even patients back for re-evaluation or a few years post either refuse or just give up because they don't 'look right' doing (sci) it.

    Anyway, my long-winded question is which is more important, style (the way you do something) or substance (the fact that you get it done)?

    For me, its all about substance. I could care less how I look doing something versus actually getting it done. I've given up enough already so anything that I can accomplish, pretty or ugly in its method, is one more thing to add to the "yes, I can" list.

    How about you?

    I think going for substance is one reason I've had several injuries post-SCI. I'd rather do things, try things than worry about how I look doing it or what anyone else thinks about how I look doing anything.
    The only true "grace" I've felt since SCI has been snow skiing out West. I only thought of it then because it felt "easy" for me.


      LaMem - do you monoski?

      Agreed, skiing, like driving looks and feels the same as pre injury.

      I knew you were a substance girl..


        I have developed two personas. Me at work tries not to do anything that draws undue attention to my disability. For instance if I sense I'm going to have a real problem with a coffee cup I won't pick it up in a meeting. Afterwards I will discreetly explain why and sort it for next time. Won't always pick things off floor in case my clothes expose my ass.

        At home I don't things open with teeth, scrabble on floor, eat pills off table by slurpin them up with my tongue.

        Needs must
        C5/6 incomplete

        "I assume you all have guns and crack....."


          Yes, though I don't own my own equipment. Chattanooga isn't exactly the skiing capital of the universe. I try to take a couple of trips a year to do different things including skiing, but due to injuries haven't been the last couple of years. This is my year again!
          Family and friends were upset when I started skiing. I explained what it feels like to me, the absolute freedom. Since I described the sensations for me, I haven't gotten anymore flack. I was actually given great ski gear a couple of years ago for a present from my parents. They understand.
          I love skiing, hang gliding, anything water ... I love to float in water and swim. Although, I make lifeguards nervous being anywhere near water. Oh, well!
          I love to snorkel a reef anywhere. I feel I'm in a giant aquarium. I'm so happy doing it I squeal with delight underwater. I have my own mask and snorkel because I can trust my own and I know it won't leak.
          I first went dancing again in Alaska on New Year's Eve four years ago. It was my intro to chair dancing. I haven't been the same since! I dance again and I love it.
          If I worried about what other people thought of me I wouldn't do half the things I do.
          My style is expressed in my outlook on life. The substance counts everything.
          Last edited by LaMemChose; 22 Jan 2006, 6:08 PM. Reason: I may not be anal about what I look like doing things, but I'm retentive about my typing!


            Taking a break from the Broncos game, Chris? Dang, can't say I blame you--they are getting their butts handed to them.

            Anyway--DEFINITELY, substance for me. But, then, it always has been.

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              I'm like RehabRhino. If I am at a place where there aer lots of people around who might not understand my disability, I don't do anything that might make my legs go nutzo or make them look at me anymore than they already do. But if it's my family or my friends around, I don't care. They've all seen me at my worst and so they aren't too worried about me looking 'goofy' trying to get something done.
              If there is light
              it will find

              --Charles Bukowski


                My sig line says it all. It has been my approach almost since day one. And the damn Broncos are not getting it done. I'm watching pool.
                William M.
                T 6/7 Complete - 4/20/74


                  I was born with a complete lack of style and class...Im all substance baby!


                    Substance... after 20 years of style... there just comes a point when you realize there's no need to button those buttons, or comb that hair, or have that extra wine glass where you can get to it... cause the world my friend is NOT beating a path to your door. The WORLD couldn't care less... so, eat the BBQ ribs with your fingers and leave the milk mustache on... nobody gives a shit... its sad but its also 100% TRUE.

                    Give me a world full of Shauns, Bethenys, Scorpios, CurrliQs, and others... people who care.
                    Last edited by rustyreeves; 22 Jan 2006, 6:08 PM.


                      Sue, spad - I know, sad state for the Broncos. Plus I can watch while online.

                      Rehab, Carrie - interesting. Yes, I totally understand.
                      Given that me, Sue, spad - all over 42 - responded the same I wonder if being older (age) has anything to do with the answer.. Basically, the older you get the less you care and therefore substace takes precedence no matter the situation.

                      LaMem - sorry, not sure of your chronological age so didn't want to assume. Although, given your wisdom and life experiences I'm guessing over 30?


                        I've accepted the fact that I have no style... substance it is!
                        Last edited by LooseCannon; 22 Jan 2006, 6:33 PM.


                          I'm ALL about substance and I really don't care how stupid I look when trying new things. I'll try anything once as long as it's generally safe and nothing ICKY food related. If they want me to try some new food and most likely KNOW I won't like it, they better be prepared for me to spit it out right in front of them ALL CHEWED UP!

                          I've dropped things on the floor and gone to pick them up to only come up to get my hair caught in my brakes or dropped more things...then I start to swear like a sailor, etc.

                          I'm very stubborn and like to do things MY way. I do appreciate help when it's offered, but if I can do it...I'll just say no thanks.

                          It may take me a little longer to do something, but I'll get it done.
                          "Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die today." ~ James Dean


                            Originally posted by Chris Chappell
                            LaMem - sorry, not sure of your chronological age so didn't want to assume. Although, given your wisdom and life experiences I'm guessing over 30?
                            I'm 44 ... no need to apologize for assuming I'm over 30. LOL I've earned every year and definitely enjoy the ride.


                              Kristi - I'm guessing Fear Factor isn't one of your favorite shows lol?
                              I knew it, you're all about passion and getting whatever is you're doing, done. Awesome!

                              Btw, hope your boyfriend's worthy.