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    Another late night, and I'm procrastinating. A thought popped into my head. When ppl go clubbing, are you the type to sit on the side, order a drink and watch others dance, or do you get in there, and work that ass?

    I have not been out clubbing in AGES...but when I do go out, I find it difficult to just sit on the sidelines while everyone else is out dancing. I love gettin' out there, but I'm not the type to do wheelies and stuff. What kinda dance moves do you guys do?

    I have a friend, (I've only been out to a club once with someone else in a chair) and she does spins and wheelies in her chair. I thought it was a lil awkward, but she seemed to be enjoying herself, so I kept my mouth shut. I dunno, it seemed like she was drawing a lot of unnecessary attention to her chair.

    I've also had some weird club experiences. I remember at a club in Oita, Japan called Cool Bananas, I was out dancing with friends, and this AB guy came right up to me, straddled me and basically gave me a lap dance with his crotch right up in my face. It wasn't pleasant.

    At Atlantis, a local club, I went out clubbing with a bunch of guy friends, so I was the only chick. We went out on the floor and were dancing, when this complete stranger came up to me, whispered something in my ear which I couldn't hear and then planted a sloppy kiss on my ear. I was more scared of what my friends were about to do to this punk than I was disgusted by having his mouth all over my ear. The entire rest of the night, I could barely move, because they had all enclosed me. I've never gone alone with a bunch of guys since, lol.

    I'm curious what kind of experiences you all have had.....
    Good, bad, or do you avoid clubs altogether?

    "To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all." - Oscar Wilde

  • #2
    Not clubbing but...a friend of mine who is a para likes to contra dance. She's pretty good at it, too.


    • #3
      Being deaf, I've never been much of a dancer anyway, so I suppose I'm not missing out on much. [img]/forum/images/smilies/wink.gif[/img] Dance, however, seems to be a pretty individual thing, so just do whatever makes you happy. [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img]

      Don't piss me off or I'll run over your toes. [img]/forum/images/smilies/tongue.gif[/img]
      "Legs are overrated. You can still get laid." - Kevin Girardi, "Joan of Arcadia"


      • #4
        I get dragged out to the dancefloor. I mostly chill, but it seems to make everyone happy when they get me out there. I can also sympathize with your sloppy kiss experience. People tend to get pretty freaky on the dancefloor. Just try to stay away from the etards. Me personally, I would rather go out to a nice dinner a house party than go to a dance club. Wheelies and spins are definitely out. I'm too "cool" conscious for that madness.


        • #5
          i haven't been in a club since ive been injured two years ago...the night i was injured i was out clubbin, so i guess i associate it with bad luck...i know its stupid but i just cant help feel that if i didnt go out that night, i wouldnt be in the situation im in now. but dancing is cool...ive never seen a person in a chair out on the dance floor before, but as long as your having fun, who cares.

          Even if your body cannot move, you can still think and meditate ~Dalai Lama~


          • #6
            I went out to a club with another woman in a chair and her husband and they danced...had a crazy time, it was fun. I dance at home in my chair and would probably do it in public if I felt comfortable and was encouraged.

            If you're secure enough and don't give a rats bum about what others think then I'd suggest you get out there and work it! [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img] You only live once.


            • #7
              We go dancing a lot. I don't do wheelies and don't seem to draw too much attention. Years ago I would often get into clubs for free but now that happens fewer and further in between.

              I hate those clubs that have really tall tables with everyone sitting on stools. When the music is loud people are too far away to communicate with. It's bad enough when people are standing but in those clubs you're at a disadvantage when people are sitting, too.

              A bunch of us in chairs had fun dancing one night after our white water rafting trip. It was one of the best times I'd had in a while. [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img]

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              • #8
                Congratulations globechaser; you've managed to spark my first real topic reply in months...

                The off-the-bat answer to Do you dance?: hellz ya! I've been involved with an integrated dance troupe for the past couple of years, and I'd even say that music-driven motion is a main part of my daily physical activity. For the record, I'm C-5 complete quad, teetering between the manual chair (for fitness) and the power chair (for autonomy on the road). And let's just say the motor is entirely uninspiring on the dancefloor .

                The introspective, more-relevant-to-this-topic answer I feel compelled to post in answer to the question: not even close to enough! Something inside me twitched upon reading the clubland context here, probably because I lived, breathed, smoked, drank, pissed, farted and regurgitated the nightlife for several years when I was able-bodied. This era of my life was interrupted by you-know-what just before my 22nd birthday, and I can easily admit that endless, nocturnal romps on the dancefloor were quickly classified at the top of my things-I'm-gunna-miss list. Hence, a prominent psychological barrier in my reintegration to the 'floor, but inexcusable nonetheless, I say. Especially in the clubland mecca of Montreal, but I must point out that accessible nightspots are pretty damn rare. Although I'm not a fraction of the scenester I used to be, I can still find friends in just about any club setting, and can blend into the crowd with my ultra-hip stealth technique. Other dancers have come up with a couple of encouraging chat-up lines in the past couple of years, but I have yet to experience that back-in-the-day vibe of belonging in a niteclub setting. (Don't get me wrong, I have enjoyed many inspiring dancefloor moments from the seated position. One highlight is getting drenched in a torrential downpour during one of the summer sidewalk festivals, while Max Graham churned out a vicious set of epic trance that seemed to evolve in perfect synchronicity with the lulls and crests of the storm.) But when it comes to gittin' down, I tend to be somewhat of a wallflower; whatever movement I can muster isn't usually very dynamic, and I find I tend to create an anomaly on the dancefloor as opposed to contributing to the collective groove. Navigating hypnotized freaks in the dark just isn't enjoyable in a chair, and having someone clear the way is even more defeating (never mind ordering a drink). So now, I usually place myself strategically near the DJ booth with my other pretentious clubber friends and criticize the skills of the person behind the turntables. But that was also common practice pre-SCI; as a fallen DJ, I also miss making people dance. Ahh, venting does a body good...

                On a lighter note, I made my first public (club event) appearance in the manual chair just last Saturday. I noticed a distinct difference in the way people reacted to my presence in the bar, but didn't really get to test the dance floor due to excessive crowds and intoxication. All in due time, I suppose.

                And to commemorate this long-winded return to the CC forums, I temporarily switch back to my old signature...

                "work like you don't need the money ~ love like you've never been hurt ~ dance like nobody's watching"
                ~Velcro holds my life together~


                • #9
                  Oh, btw globechaser...

                  Another Late Night is the name of one of my favorite compilation sets. And CC is all about procrastinating. heheheh... [img]/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif[/img]

                  ~Velcro holds my life together~
                  ~Velcro holds my life together~


                  • #10
                    I dont think Jess has been to any club since his accident ( 11 months ago) but I have a question to all of you dancers....His brother is getting married in 9 months. He is bestman and there will be a grand march. I am sure his uneasiness at being in a wheelchair will change somemore in 9 months, but what should I expect the grand march to be like when he and the maid of honor have to go out on the dance floor?


                    • #11
                      Jesse's mom,
                      I am 8 months post since my injury. My boyfriends brother got married when I was 6 months post. I was dreading the reception because I loved dancing so much, but my boyfriend made me feel better about it. They had a congo line my boyfriend looked at me said we can do it grabbed my chair and off we went. We also slowed danced together at first it was a little different but I still enjoyed it. I wouldn't worry to much about it. He might be in a wheelchair but he needs to make the best out of what he can do.


                      • #12
                        Good question! I am curious myself. However, unlike most of you, I have been disabled during childhood, so I have never walked. I tried clubbing a few times, and I have to say that I seldom had good times. The places were too loud, it was hard to talk to people, it was too crowded for me to move around, and I became just a reluctant specator rather than a participant. After a while I decided that it is not for me, so I have not been clubbing for ages


                        • #13
                          I go out to the clubs. I really only enjoy it when I am with a huge group of friends or at a place where I know a lot of people. I tend to stay on the sides (I actually have never gone on the dance floor)....I can't stand being there when I dont know anyone, I am stone sober and its just packed.
                          People usually come up and talk to's fun...unless it is one of those perverts who try to give you a lap dance....apparently they are all over the place!!!


                          • #14
                            I danced, sort of, for the first time post SCI, on our last cruise. The entire group of us--all 14-- went up to the supper club for dinner. Sometime between salads and main courses Moon River came up. I have always loved that song, so romantic. Well I did it, asked the spousal unit. Nope. Sigh... Then he did the unforgivable according to all the etiquette books I've read, accepted another's offer. [img]/forum/images/smilies/mad.gif[/img] Grrrr Then a friend came to my rescue! I will never forget his gallantry. And my husband learned paybacks are a true bitch. [img]/forum/images/smilies/eek.gif[/img]

                            Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."
                            Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow."

                            Disclaimer: Answers, suggestions, and/or comments do not constitute medical advice expressed or implied and are based solely on my experiences as a SCI patient. Please consult your attending physician for medical advise and treatment. In the event of a medical emergency please call 911.


                            • #15
                              Salut Meson,

                              I've heard the club culture is pretty rich in Montreal. I've always wanted to go out there, but I have yet to visit. A racer I know, Chantal Petitclerc, has a boyfriend who's a DJ out there...and apparently he's pretty good, but the opinion may be a bit biased because it was according to her.Lol.

                              I saw a documentary about a girl who lived in Quebec who was a quad and had started her own interpretive dance troupe. It was a great documentary, and it totally changed the way I look at dance, and the apparent "limitations" that occur post-sci.

                              I remember when I was in highschool, I went through this phase where I wanted to own a turntable, and make some of my own mixes. That phase passed pretty quickly, because I think I'm too intimidated by what's out there. Plus I have a weird-ass taste in music, influences from every genre (except

                              Jesse's mum:

                              I think if your son is around ppl who are comfortable with his chair as much as he is, they'll just do what comes naturally. At my grad banquet, it was father-daughter dance, and my dad and I just went with whatever felt right, and it was pretty special.

                              My sis and I, when we were younger, and swing was big, came up with our own version. It was frickin' hilarious, but I've met some ppl in chairs who teach swing dancing, and it really neat how they adapted everything. Watching them dance, the thought that they looked awkward never crossed my mind once.

                              I hope your son gets a chance to enjoy himself, cuz regardless of how able a person is, as long as he's having a good time, that's all that should matter. Hell, I've met AB's who should never EVERY be seen on a dancefloor, it's just not right. (Funky chicken a la Britney Spears....nuff said. Lol.) But they're enjoying themselves, and I can respect that.


                              I dunno if I'd let my husband get away with that ever again. That's not cool. Next time, find the most attractive guy on the dance floor, and spend the entire night with him, shaking your ass. Your hubby will be sorry he ever turned you down.

                              Thanks for all the great posts, it's neat to see other ppl's perspectives.

                              "To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all." - Oscar Wilde