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    Don't sit here, please.

    I know there's no data to answer this question, but I'm always concerned when someone sits on my lap that they're not going to fracture my osteoporotic femur. I'm not in the habit of offering up my lap as alternative seating, but last night a friend's wife decided to take a load off and rest on my "very comfortable" lap. I'm not at all bothered by the assumed familiarity (I've known her for a very long time) and thankfully she's not at all gargantuan. She wasn't barcalounging on me for too long, but I get nervous because I have no idea how much weight my legs can support.
    stephen@bike-on.com

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    Like many of the unknowns in life, the answer comes from experience. A rudimentary understanding of physics suggests ball park limits of prudence. The gray areas are settled by testing.

    Some asses are worth the risk.
    Foolish

    "We have met the enemy and he is us."-POGO.

    "I have great faith in fools; self-confidence my friends call it."~Edgar Allan Poe

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      #3
      I let kids sit on my lap and sometimes take them for a ride, but it stops when they are too big for the same reason you cited. Barcolounging, I love it! Now if she were offering a lap dance...

      Point of fact, I don't like adults using my WC as a place to "rest" on or lean on. Just my personal feelings. My WC is an extension of my body and after all I don't lean on them

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        #4
        Originally posted by stephen212 View Post
        I know there's no data to answer this question, but I'm always concerned when someone sits on my lap that they're not going to fracture my osteoporotic femur. I'm not in the habit of offering up my lap as alternative seating, but last night a friend's wife decided to take a load off and rest on my "very comfortable" lap. I'm not at all bothered by the assumed familiarity (I've known her for a very long time) and thankfully she's not at all gargantuan. She wasn't barcalounging on me for too long, but I get nervous because I have no idea how much weight my legs can support.
        Maybe a robust goosing was in order!

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          #5
          I've got a problem with someone in my lap too. It's not my body, but I'm afraid his weight might overload the chair. He really doesn't understand why I keep telling him he can't sit in his happy place when I am in the wheelchair when it is ok when I sit in a regular chair.

          Played with bombs- No SCI, Brain Damage enough that I require a chair and a caregiver.

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            #6
            You could try talking to her while she's on your lap, and see what pops up.

            Seriously, though, I don't know what to tell you. I do feel the same way. I used to always want my wife to sit on my lap, but now, not so much. I think as we get older in our SCI years, we become more aware of possible potential issues.
            Rollin' since '89. Complete C8

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              #7
              I think about that as well but haven't had any problems with it. The heaviest was a girlfriend at about 175.
              Andrew

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                #8
                I did meet an SCI para many years ago at a sexuality/disability program who did get a fracture when his wife was trying to do a little more than just sit on his lap. So it can happen. I believe it is wise to err on the safe side. Once the kids are up to 25-30 lbs., I decline giving them a lap ride. I have given a couple bigger kids piggyback rides for short differences.
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                  #9
                  I won't allow people on my lap because it's not worth a fracture that won't heal. I was too inebrited at the last work Christmas party and had 2 muscle-bound guys over 6' sitting on me ... cracked my chair ... still waiting for the replacement frame,
                  .
                  Roses are red. Tacos are enjoyable. Don't blame immigrants, because you're unemployable.

                  T-11 Flaccid Paraplegic due to TM July 1985 @ age 12

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by Foolish Old View Post

                    Some asses are worth the risk.

                    FO says it best.

                    If you don't want someone sitting on your lap tell them that one of the welds on your chair has started cracking. You are due to get it fixed, but this chair could go at any moment......

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                      #11
                      Now that Small Boy is Medium Boy we have put the ix nay on chair rides unfortunately.....
                      Wife of Chad (C4/5 since 1988), mom of a great teenager

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                        #12
                        only small kids and babes allowed on my lap. plus being so damn short (4'9") my lap is only big enough for kids anyway.
                        "Smells like death in a bucket of chicken!"
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                          #13
                          Off topic: I am loving Stephen's new avatar photo!!! What woman couldn't resist waking up next to that giant smile every day!?!?!?

                          We return to your regularly scheduled programming now. As you were ... lol ...
                          Roses are red. Tacos are enjoyable. Don't blame immigrants, because you're unemployable.

                          T-11 Flaccid Paraplegic due to TM July 1985 @ age 12

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                            #14
                            I let my nephew sit on my lap (he is 5). My husband straddles me sometimes for some hard core Mack down kissing, hugging, and some dancing from time to time but he doesn't put much of his weight on me at all. I carry a laundry basket on my lap at the grocery store every week. I can fit about $150 worth of groceries in there and sometimes I get a little paranoid about the weight on the basket by the time I get to the check out line. My legs are skinny and frail after 19 years. I need to be more cautious for sure.
                            DFW TEXAS- T-10 since March 20th, 1994

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                              #15
                              I noticed the handsome new pic too Lynnifer!
                              DFW TEXAS- T-10 since March 20th, 1994

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