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    Originally posted by Katja View Post
    Did you all see this: Handicap Parking and Bitterness?

    Fantastic blog and writing. We should share widely. I do like revenge. urg!
    "The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.” ~Carlos Castaneda

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      Originally posted by Katja View Post
      Did you all see this: Handicap Parking and Bitterness?

      I have been in that same situation twice in 19 years. So frustrating! It made my blood boil while reading it!
      DFW TEXAS- T-10 since March 20th, 1994

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        We went to the doctor's office yesterday to see a new doctor (our doctor left the practice so Chad had to establish with a new doctor) and she said to Chad "So do you get out much?".

        FAIL.

        I suppressed my urge to say something very sarcastic. Chad diplomatically yet with just the right edge said "yes, every day of course", to which she looked properly sheepish.
        Wife of Chad (C4/5 since 1988), mom of a great teenager

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          Here is something else that bugs me, people seem to think that I am all-understanding and have nothing better to do with my time than to listen to their problems. I try to be empathetic, but on a certain level I am resentful because if I bring up 'my stuff' the subject is changed. It seems people love to talk 'at' me, but not with me, if you know what I mean. I am getting really tired of it.
          chair user since 2009 from a neurological disorder

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            Hi everyone,
            I always have strange things said to me too. Gonna use some of these lol...
            i once went to a party being thrown by a co worker of my boyfriends. Well apparently his female co worker(not the one throwing the party) actually came up to me (with her friends in tow) pointed at me and laughed and said omg YOU ARE so and sos's girlfriend?!?! (She and friends walked away laughing). Not really my best night. (I didnt say anything back just smiled and nodded)

            Here is a funny one: twisted my ankle doing a transfer so had to go to the emergancy..xrays done and getting a wrap from the doc he looks at me and says "you will be fine nothing major. Swelling will go down in a few days. Just try to stay off it and no pressure." Er ok.i have been para since i was very little and dont ever stand or put weight on my feet but then again he knew that..right?

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              Ha ha, sometimes doctors say the funniest things! I have a neurological disorder and my legs are mostly paralyzed. I had one of those tests where they put needles in your legs and send electricity through them to see how much function you have. When the test was over he grimly said "I'm sorry to tell you that you have lost 90% of your function". Really??? Now tell me something I don't know.
              chair user since 2009 from a neurological disorder

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                I freely admit to being bitter when ppl abuse hc parking. why shouldn't I be? they are selfish ppl.

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                  Today when I went to sign up for school my admissions rep said multiple times why don't I get a power chair. Clearly he can see I can push myself just fine.

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                    Originally posted by SequinScandal View Post
                    Today when I went to sign up for school my admissions rep said multiple times why don't I get a power chair. Clearly he can see I can push myself just fine.
                    It's American couch potato thinking. Why push if you don't have to?
                    stephen@bike-on.com

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                      Originally posted by stephen212 View Post
                      It's American couch potato thinking. Why push if you don't have to?
                      If you have to do major pushing all day for school or work , I would consider some power assist. One thing is for exercise and you chose to do i..but I ended up with serious issues form years of pushing..for work. I had to park and push through medical campus and hospitals and eventually did myself in and had to go to power assist. regular pushing is fine and good but if it is a everyday deal it may not be beneficial in the long run.

                      Though in college, I pushed all over campus and I was in great shape! But I was younger then!
                      "The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.” ~Carlos Castaneda

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                        It happened, AGAIN!!!! Today a lady around my age said in an exhausted tone of voice..........drum roll please.......
                        "YOU ARE SO LUCKY YOU DON'T HAVE TO WALK, I BET IT'S FUN RIDING AROUND IN THAT CHAIR".

                        I said yes, it's especially fun to take it apart and put it in my car. It's also fun going up hills and through narrow door ways. The best part is when it doesn't fit in restrooms though.

                        She looked at me like I was the meanest person she had ever come in contact with and didn't say another word. It was an awkward moment for the rest of our time in the waiting room together.
                        DFW TEXAS- T-10 since March 20th, 1994

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                          no one tells me im lucky except drs.
                          They look upset, embarrassed to be noticed staring, they wait for me to pass and then watch me "walk" down the walmart. sometimes groups of people are staring.

                          I hear things like, what happened?! what happened to your legs? oh you poor thing! (the worst thing to say to me ever when im trying to ambulate)
                          Iv seen people shake their head and say, oh what a shame, she must have been a looker once though.

                          people think im drunk, even once police on bicycles tried to make me get of my trycicle and do a sobriety test.

                          A drunk saw the police man trying to pull me up off my trike, and (good ole tony budanno) staggers out of the junkhouse and says in his best drunk voice, Hey! She aint drunk! she's like that for real! she got car hit!

                          Tony was top of his class at Drexel U. he was givin a full engineering scholarship. I forget why.

                          He was hit by a fire truck on a drunk walk home twenty years before. spent many months recovering his broken bones. his legs were going to be amputated, but he refused. he's been walking around as the town fool ever since.

                          He brags he is a cosack count. I checked it out. Its true. I call him count Budano, and he stiffens up and looks proud. as he tweeks his shirt collar when he is addressed correctly.

                          He would get thrown out of bars all the time, and hated bathing, so you can guess how he was treated.

                          he saved me twice from being harrassed about the same way. He was so drunk he could hardly stand, but his vouching for me was enough. no one there mistakes me for drunk. only strangers. I forget how I met him. oh, he walked into a little cafe I was entertaining at. before I was hit. He asked to play me a song on my guitar.

                          started to tell me how he used to play with the rolling stones. that is another story. and again, Count Budano surprised the hell out of everyone one day, when that silly overheard story became a bit more solid.

                          Able bodied people say some silly things, but watch one cripple defend another to the able bodied.
                          you're bound to hear something funny.

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                            Something that really makes me mad is when people say I hope you feel better as if I'm sick.

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                              Originally posted by offroaderswife View Post
                              It happened, AGAIN!!!! Today a lady around my age said in an exhausted tone of voice..........drum roll please.......
                              "YOU ARE SO LUCKY YOU DON'T HAVE TO WALK, I BET IT'S FUN RIDING AROUND IN THAT CHAIR".

                              I said yes, it's especially fun to take it apart and put it in my car. It's also fun going up hills and through narrow door ways. The best part is when it doesn't fit in restrooms though.

                              She looked at me like I was the meanest person she had ever come in contact with and didn't say another word. It was an awkward moment for the rest of our time in the waiting room together.
                              What a fantastic response. I hope she felt like the idiot she is the rest of the time she was there.

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                                My Dad is c3-c4, incomplete (sensory).

                                1) My Dad had changed his durable power of attorney (prior to his injury) -- so that two of my siblings would no longer have sole power DPA (their power was lessened, shall we say) and they discovered the change after my Dad's injury.

                                My sibling was openly annoyed and told my Mom not to sign anything which I ask her to sign (cuz the two still have sole power of DPA over her) -- and then to my Dad, eyes open and lying in bed: "I guess that I don't have to worry about YOU signing anything anymore."

                                2) My Dad was not informed that the doctors gave him 6-18 months to live post injury. However, he does know that high-level SCI folks over 70 have a 4-5 times higher chance of passing in the first year post injury.

                                I wanted to get a very nice wheelchair (such as power) for my Dad. My Mom didn't want to spend the money - since at the time, a co-payment was needed.

                                My sibling's response at my Dad's bedside -- my Dad's eyes were closed, but it's not always the case that he's asleep: "Why get an expensive wheelchair? We should do a cost-benefit analysis. Where do you see Dad in 18 months?"
                                Last edited by Joey_SF; 19 May 2013, 5:49 AM.

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