Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

Shit people say to the disabled

Collapse
X
 
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

    I'm debating this currently, on another subject. Can't tell if i'm being thin-skinned or if we'd all be better off w/ quick confrontation, quicker forgiveness and move by the stupid thing. It's a tough call. I hate when I try to act thick-skinned and wind up nursing some stupid private boo-boo, like Ow my feeling's are hurt but nobody knows b/c they think I'm tougher than I am.

    If I was as tough as some ppl think/expect, I'd be elephant hide.
    Blog:
    Does This Wheelchair Make My Ass Look Fat?

    Comment


      Originally posted by Crappler View Post
      Wah Wah,

      Like you said, That's gold. Or in the words of Jerry Seinfeld, "that's gold, baby".

      That reminded me of a couple lines I experienced.

      1. This was back in the early 90's. A friend of the family was over and checking out my new van. He rode down the lift from inside and said "I'm a cripple now!".

      2. A buddy of mine (also in a chair) and I were outside talking to my neighbor and kinda bullshitting around with him and giving him a hard time. He said to the two us "I could kick yours asses in half a heart beat".

      Now that's good stuff.

      Jesus "Friend #1" has a wit to rival Oscar Wilde and "neighbour" must have a dick the size of a cashew, with tiny baby nuts to match!.

      There should be a gold cast trophy of a dog turd given as a prize for this kind of behaviour. Lol...hey crappler, when you look back on this stuff it does make you laugh, it's just at the time it's just the pits.

      I have this asshole of an uncle who gets into me about my weight, now i ain't bad looking, not a bad lookin head and I do a good beard, but I have a gut, mainly because I can't burn off like he does as a builder. I stay fit but I have really what only could be described as a paunch and this uncle of mine fucking rides me for it. He knows why I'm in a chair, his daughter is soon to get her ticket as a doctor, so he must know what my beckars MD is all about but he continues to be a fucking jerk.

      I know why. He's chewed through 3 marriages and has 5 kids, his exes hate him and he's an ugly sticklike little fuck with no money. I rock up with my pretty wife great kids, flash car and my zero mortgage and it fucking kills him I know it.
      "The problem with self improvement is knowing when to quit." "Diamond" David Lee Roth.

      Comment


        To this day my buddy and I use that "half a heart beat" remark to each other. That saying goes down as one of our all time faves.

        It was awful way back when it happened, but it's gold today.
        Rollin' since '89. Complete C8

        Comment


          Originally posted by betheny View Post
          I'm debating this currently, on another subject. Can't tell if i'm being thin-skinned or if we'd all be better off w/ quick confrontation, quicker forgiveness and move by the stupid thing. It's a tough call. I hate when I try to act thick-skinned and wind up nursing some stupid private boo-boo, like Ow my feeling's are hurt but nobody knows b/c they think I'm tougher than I am.

          If I was as tough as some ppl think/expect, I'd be elephant hide.
          Very well put

          Comment


            Originally posted by Crappler View Post
            To this day my buddy and I use that "half a heart beat" remark to each other. That saying goes down as one of our all time faves.

            It was awful way back when it happened, but it's gold today.
            Glad it now brings you and your buddy a laugh rather than sorrow Crappler. It's good to share stuff like that with someone who totally gets it.

            lol...what ever happened to that neighbour?.

            Now this is weird, karma has caught up with a few people who shit me about my disability in my past and sometimes it shocks me.

            I have this one awesome example, it still stuns me to this day.

            This jerk pushed me down one night in front of my mates when i was still walking around. I carried that for like a year, then i read in our local paper this same asshole was hit by a WWII Willy's jeep when he was in Jamaica for the cricket, anyway he broke both his legs and was in traction in an old fashioned infection ridden hospital in Barbados for like 6 months before he could get a flight home. He spent then a year in a wheelchair.

            Karma, it can be frighteningly real.
            "The problem with self improvement is knowing when to quit." "Diamond" David Lee Roth.

            Comment


              hmm

              A hot young stud asked me that once...God why did I let him get away?


              Originally posted by Curt Leatherbee View Post

              Comment


                Originally posted by JakeHalsted View Post
                A hot young stud asked me that once...God why did I let him get away?
                Shoulda' said "Bend over bitch, and we'll see"...i do understand you said hot stud though...still applies...tee hee
                "The problem with self improvement is knowing when to quit." "Diamond" David Lee Roth.

                Comment


                  I have had people say that if they were in my shoes they'd probably kill themselves. I think that's a bit odd, probably says a lot about how they feel about themselves. I ride horses, on trails and once we went on a group ride. After the ride, when I got off my horse and got my crutches I overheard someone say "I didn't know the crutch person was riding with us". I think it's funny now, one of my AB friends sometimes calls me the 'crutch person' so we can both laugh at it. On the same ride, at the end when it was obvious a gimp had been on their ride, someone came up and asked what breed my horse was. Proudly I said "a Paso Fino" and the woman said "that makes sense, those are the kind that get down on their knees like a camel". Huh.....one of the odder things said to me regarding horses. I also get the "what therapy center did you get her from" question and they are surprised that she was not a therapy horse and was a young horse at that that I trained to do stuff like stand next to anything for me to get on and off from (it has to be as tall as the saddle so I can fling my leg over and then push myself on from).

                  I also get a LOT of the "you are so inspiring" and "bless your heart" and even "it is so neat that you go out in public" and "it is so nice to see that you can smile with your situation".
                  chair user since 2009 from a neurological disorder

                  Comment


                    Sarafino, Where do you live that "it is so neat that you go out in public"?
                    stephen@bike-on.com

                    Comment


                      I live in Colorado, this woman was saying it because I go out in public instead of staying in my house I guess. I'm a normal looking person, just in a chair or scooter. Not that weird.
                      chair user since 2009 from a neurological disorder

                      Comment


                        Originally posted by Sarafino View Post
                        I live in Colorado, this woman was saying it because I go out in public instead of staying in my house I guess. I'm a normal looking person, just in a chair or scooter. Not that weird.
                        Do you have a spinal cord injury?

                        Comment


                          I have a degenerative nerve disorder. I used to use crutches but in the last few years have gone to a scooter/chair. It sucks but I sure don't feel like it is some amazing feat that I am not ashamed to go out in public.
                          chair user since 2009 from a neurological disorder

                          Comment


                            It's also annoying when strangers approach you and tell you about their "best friend" who is in a wheelchair. They never know the SPECIFICS of ther "best friends" injury or daily activities but they feel the need to relate to me by letting me know that they been around people like me. Blah, blah, blah! I have life experience beside being in a chair. Can we just find some other common ground besides you being a hero for knowing another "exotic rare species of a wheelchair person in life? Annoying!
                            DFW TEXAS- T-10 since March 20th, 1994

                            Comment


                              When I took Dave to ER last Friday and the staff was fumbling with the hoyer lift (which my son ended up operating) one of the nurses said "ALS huh?"
                              For some reason it pissed me off that she assumed it was ALS. I told her he had a C3 spinal cord injury 4 years ago.
                              She said she used to take care of an ALS guy and assumed he was one.
                              I know she meant no harm and it was only because I was stressed that it bothered me.

                              Comment


                                Originally posted by offroaderswife View Post
                                It's also annoying when strangers approach you and tell you about their "best friend" who is in a wheelchair. They never know the SPECIFICS of ther "best friends" injury or daily activities but they feel the need to relate to me by letting me know that they been around people like me. Blah, blah, blah! I have life experience beside being in a chair. Can we just find some other common ground besides you being a hero for knowing another "exotic rare species of a wheelchair person in life? Annoying!
                                Yeah, totally agree. Also the "I pray for people like you."

                                Though I am more than willing to talk about SPECIFIC solutions - that is a nice setup, where did you get it, do you think it could help me or my friend. And anyone who is trying to help me with specifics - I see you have this problem, have you tried X? - is also welcome.

                                This last weekend I had a little kid, maybe 5 years old, say "I hope you get better soon." From a kid, that's sweet. I would have been totally pissed if an adult said it.
                                Played with bombs- No SCI, Brain Damage enough that I require a chair and a caregiver.

                                Comment

                                Working...
                                X