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    paralyzed bride jennifer darmon walks

    http://news.yahoo.com/video/us-15749...dding-24948127

    Good for her!!

    #2
    i wouldn't really call that "walking" down the aisle. i'm a quad and i could put braces on my legs and hobble 30 steps with 2 guys on each side of me to keep me from falling and then stand with a walker. i'm glad she did it the way she wanted, but people will see that and think she really can walk or had some kind of paralysis cure just b/c she "worked hard" when that is nowhere near the truth.
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      #3
      Wheelz, I really don't think she was trying to make people believe she was cured. I think she had a goal to be able to walk down the aisle when she got married. With "hard work" she was able to make that dream come true.

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        #4
        Originally posted by danielgr View Post
        Wheelz, I really don't think she was trying to make people believe she was cured. I think she had a goal to be able to walk down the aisle when she got married. With "hard work" she was able to make that dream come true.
        Agreed. She lived her dream using what she had, also beautiful young woman.

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          #5
          She was a lovely bride! What a wonderful wedding day for her.
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            #6
            Originally posted by danielgr View Post
            Wheelz, I really don't think she was trying to make people believe she was cured.
            I don't think that is what Wheelz is saying. What he said is that people will think her determination has resulted in a 'cure' of sorts and I agree. The average person seeing her 'walk' down the aisle will think she has achieved more than what we are seeing. When I was first injured, I could 'walk' with full leg braces and a walker, too.

            When things like this are hyped in the media, friends & family usually call me to see if I've see the story of "the woman who...blah, blah, blah"...because they don't realize it is nothing new. That's just the way it is. I think it's cool she achieved what she wanted on her wedding day. But, that's all.
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              #7
              I agree with all of you "wheelz99," "danielgr," and "ancientgimp, "Grammy," and "flicka." I am glad this young woman realized a dream and she did it with grace, poise, and determination...kudos to her. But, in this game, all of us have had to deal with those people who would say, "if you only believed more, if you only worked harder, if you only wanted it more.....you could do this (whatever the this is) too." It just seems to be human nature to make these comparisons. This attitude is pervasive in society, even on this website. The trick is finding your own path and goals and being true to them, undeterred by those who do not understand the nuances and variations in injury levels and classifications.

              All the best,
              GJ

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                #8
                Had a discussion about this on my Facebook since she's from the Essex County area.

                I was sorely disappointed in the way my newspaper reported this and when I made an online comment on it, it was deleted and some had the audacity to call me bitter! I just wanted the facts .. not misleading information that it takes 'determination' to beat paralysis.
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                T-11 Flaccid Paraplegic due to TM July 1985 @ age 12

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                  #9
                  like most of the comments, i agree it's great she did this. the problem is the way the news handles it, just like the rutgers player, they make it sound like some maricle happened and she can walk. the truth is she hobbled down the isle with braces and 2 guys holding her, which she worked very hard to accomplish this little moment of joy in her life. just like with everything else, the news only tells part of the story and leaves a false impression.
                  Kudos to her, she worked hard and made a beautiful bride and got to enjoy the moment, got many pictures in gown without the wheelchair, but the fact is, the chair is her life, what she did has no practical use and was just for the moment.
                  Last edited by jschism; 21 Apr 2011, 2:32 PM. Reason: add

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                    #10
                    Originally posted by lynnifer View Post
                    Had a discussion about this on my Facebook since she's from the Essex County area.

                    I was sorely disappointed in the way my newspaper reported this and when I made an online comment on it, it was deleted and some had the audacity to call me bitter! I just wanted the facts .. not misleading information that it takes 'determination' to beat paralysis.
                    I can believe that.
                    People want happy endings. They do not want to hear the truth.
                    Did any of us?

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                      #11
                      While I don't think that she was necessirally intending to make people think she was cured it's just the slant that the news puts on it. I hate how the news always ends such reports with such finality. That if they are kind of walking now it's only a matter of time until they will be up and running full speed again. Which sadly is not what happens in most cases. The majority of SCI cases will be affected in some way or another for all of their life and the news often leaves this information out.

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                        #12
                        Hey its not just AB's who fall into this trap.

                        My big friend Kenny is a low-level para, complete. He disparaged another para who was able to walk with a walker a little bit, but basically gave up and stuck to life in a chair.

                        If I recall Kenny said something like "ah he's just a quitter. If I'd have had what he had I'd be walking on two canes by now....he just didn't work hard enough at it....".

                        That is a full-on Paraplegic disparaging another paraplegic for not working hard enough. So can you blame Joe-public for thinking the same exact thing?

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                          #13
                          My brother said this exact thing to me the first time I came home after leaving (running away): "You didn't try hard enough."

                          Pretty sad when family doesn't even trust that you did your best.
                          Roses are red. Tacos are enjoyable. Don't blame immigrants, because you're unemployable.

                          T-11 Flaccid Paraplegic due to TM July 1985 @ age 12

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                            #14
                            It took hubby's family a long time to admit that all the determination,work, prayers and stubbornness were not going to bring his hands back.

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                              #15
                              Originally posted by lynnifer View Post
                              Pretty sad when family doesn't even trust that you did your best.
                              My father (who I loved dearly) admitted to me twenty years after the fact, that when I was first injured he stuck a straight pin in my leg to see what would happen. He begged for forgiveness and said he only did it because he couldn't believe a person could simply just not feel something like that. He said my leg just spasmed a little and I went on talking to my mother like nothing had happened.

                              I thought it was funny, but have to admit it would probably have really hurt my feelings if I'd known about it at the time. I mean, was he really interested in the idea of paralysis, or did he think I was faking it? Oh well, whatever he was thinking, he found out what he wanted to know...
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