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    #61
    I agree with what addiesue said.
    I have always been an handy-man and it makes me angry to know that my life as a sci could be easier physically and mentally if some barriers were knocked down or any alternatives created.
    I often tell people and show them how to make a ramp, how to improve this or that. Things so simple that it is ridiculous nobody cares.
    I have to say that what makes sci suck so much and 90% of the time are other people actions and indifference. We live in society but some people ignore it, they dont care if you have limitations and if you cant have a life because of it. In the U.S.A. i have found it to be completely different in a better way.
    I was born and lived in Portugal and there is no way someone here can have a normal life using a wheelchair. If they say so, i still dont believe it.
    Laws regarding accessibility are there but no tough laws to punish who ignores them.
    In no way i could be happier than before sci.
    I just wish i could get out of here.

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      #62
      Originally posted by TMAZ View Post
      I love alot of things in my life. I can say that there are things I dont like as well. Life gets more complicated as you age as well. When I got my sci I was 34 and now I am 38 so things change a bit. I feel like I am 65 physically and 18 mentally. Really not a good combination. Life is good right now but it changes daily.
      Brother, I am right there with you, except my digestive system is 85 years old.
      And the truth shall set you free.

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        #63
        I was thinking about this and at times it is situational. For example if I am at my work conference thing which is on the beach in South Carolina I am really not happy bc all my work friends went running to the beach after the seminars and I'm either struggling to get down there or in the bar. So, no then I wasn't as happy as before. Or when I am at live music staring at a bunch of inconsiderate people's butts and elbows. Or when I notice men I am with checkin gout a girl walking by. Then I am thinking my butt is sooo much better than hers, oh wait it was.... But overall I am happier.
        If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.


        Sometimes it is easier to widen doors than it is to open minds.

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          #64
          over 3 years

          I have changed alot, still the same jokester that I was but my patience level has gone down meaning I have more compared to before. I dont worry about the little things my kids do that used to bother me I know I go along with it. As selfish as it is I am not here for me anymore I am here for my kids and my wife to make their lives as close to what they were suppose to be when i was pre sci, i know i should do stuff for me which I do but mainly its all about them and I am in the process of placing this in a tattoo for my left forearm to remind me what i am still here on this earth for.

          But all in all this SCI SUXSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
          What ever doesn't kill you makes you stronger

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            #65
            I think it's safe to say we all would rather not have a SCI!!!!!

            This thread is about happiness with a SCI. I am not happy that I have all the shit that comes along with SCI. HOWEVER.... I can still be and I am still happy even with a SCI.

            Most of the things that made me happy before SCI still make me happy. Some frustrate me. Some piss me off. I also have a bunch of new things that make me happy. (Example: If I go out for a night playing guitar and singing at an open mike night or a coffehouse gig and I make it home without peeing all in my pants.... THAT MAKES ME HAPPY!)

            Most of the things that made me unhappy before SCI still make me unhappy AND I have a whole host of new shit that makes me unhappy! (See the example in the paragraph above and you figure out the rest!)

            With that said I still say I am a generally happy guy because I choose not to dwell on the shit that makes me unhappy. Instead I choose to focus on all there is that does make me happy! I don't do this to be an inspiration to anybody or to put up any kind of front. I do it because that is what makes me happy. In this case I don't think I am any different than an AB person! That is just the frame of mind that I live by. Oh sure, I have my moments when I want to sit on the pity pot but I cut those off as soon as I recognize I am doing them. It does nobody any good.

            I make no claims that MY WAY is the RIGHT WAY or the WAY IT SHOULD BE DONE. I am just sharing in this thread about happiness!
            L1 Complete - Injury 3/12/06 - Grateful to be alive!!!!

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              #66
              Originally posted by Grange View Post
              This thread is about happiness with a SCI. I am not happy that I have all the shit that comes along with SCI. HOWEVER.... I can still be and I am still happy even with a SCI.
              Well, I've certainly changed over the years for the better. I'm certainly not in the darkest states I was in the first few years. I just still get frustrated with the whole thing; SCI feels like a job I never get time off from.

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                #67
                Originally posted by Le Type Fran├žais View Post
                SCI feels like a job I never get time off from.
                That is a good description. Sometimes it can be overwhelming can't it!!!!
                L1 Complete - Injury 3/12/06 - Grateful to be alive!!!!

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                  #68
                  I do believe there is a difference in how a person that becomes SCI at a younger age approaches things as compared to someone that becomes SCI at an older age. Having had my accident at 49 I have lived and done alot more with my lower half intact than someone that becomes disabled at say 18 years of age.
                  L1 Complete - Injury 3/12/06 - Grateful to be alive!!!!

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                    #69
                    Originally posted by Grange View Post
                    I do believe there is a difference in how a person that becomes SCI at a younger age approaches things as compared to someone that becomes SCI at an older age. Having had my accident at 49 I have lived and done alot more with my lower half intact than someone that becomes disabled at say 18 years of age.
                    I was injured when I was 22, now 25..in the past three years I have done more in a chair than I had done in my entire life!
                    T-7 Complete
                    "If you don't like something, change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it."

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                      #70
                      Originally posted by Grange View Post
                      I do believe there is a difference in how a person that becomes SCI at a younger age approaches things as compared to someone that becomes SCI at an older age. Having had my accident at 49 I have lived and done alot more with my lower half intact than someone that becomes disabled at say 18 years of age.
                      I think you're right about this. Disability, like life, is a continuum with a wide range and where one happens to be in life when injured, and level of injury have much to do with what and how things change. I can't entirely imagine how I would feel about life if I had been injured at a younger age, or with worse complications. I know I feel relieved to have gotten as far along as I did in my 35 years pre-injury, so that means at some level I know it would be a much tougher existence navigating school and career and babies and a mortgage dealing with SCI challenges, too.
                      "I have great faith in fools; self-confidence my friends call it." - Edgar Allen Poe

                      "If you only know your side of an issue, you know nothing." -John Stuart Mill, On Liberty

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                        #71
                        Originally posted by DaleB View Post
                        I think you're right about this. Disability, like life, is a continuum with a wide range and where one happens to be in life when injured, and level of injury have much to do with what and how things change. I can't entirely imagine how I would feel about life if I had been injured at a younger age, or with worse complications. I know I feel relieved to have gotten as far along as I did in my 35 years pre-injury, so that means at some level I know it would be a much tougher existence navigating school and career and babies and a mortgage dealing with SCI challenges, too.
                        Exactly!!!
                        L1 Complete - Injury 3/12/06 - Grateful to be alive!!!!

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                          #72
                          Originally posted by suoz View Post
                          I wonder how many people have recovered to their happiness level pre-SCI one year after the injury?
                          I think I am... in fact I don't know that I ever wasn't as happy as before (except for very short time periods).

                          Life has it's ups and downs, if you focus on the downs you're gonna have a pretty shit existence. Happiness is all in your head after all... nothing wrong with my head, just my spine...

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                            #73
                            I stick to my poem, because, because, because there is no great wizard of OZ,

                            ----happiness

                            Happiness is the ultimate state of rebellion,
                            People say happiness is a state of mind,
                            They are wrong.
                            Happinesss is a state of will.
                            It requires will to decide that today,
                            In spite of incompetance
                            In spite of pain,
                            In spite of disability,
                            In spite of the Peter Singers
                            In spite of anger
                            In spite of disappointment
                            In spite of all the things that can go wrong
                            and usually do go wrong.
                            I will be happy.
                            Happiness is a state of rebellion.

                            Exert your individual right, be happy
                            Happiness is an act of rebellion
                            Pessimists can not act
                            Pessimists are paralysed in their vision
                            Pessimists suffer from an inability
                            Pessimism is an incapacity
                            Pessimism is a form of blindness
                            Pessimists cannot see
                            pessimists have no vision
                            No ideas
                            No intentions
                            No will
                            Other wize they would not be pessimists
                            Happpiness is an act of rebellion

                            Ask yourselves
                            What great inventions
                            What great works of creativity
                            What great thoughts
                            What greatness of any sort
                            Can be attributed to a pessimist.
                            Happiness is an act of rebellion

                            I will go further
                            Happines is an act of rebellion
                            Happy people are unreppressed
                            Happy people make others happy
                            Happy people laugh
                            Science reports that laughter prevents illness

                            Happiness is an act of rebellion
                            In the face of misery
                            In the face of duplicity
                            In the face of pain
                            Happiness is an act of rebellion
                            Happiness as an act of will
                            Creates happiness.

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                              #74
                              And um I really don't know when I fractured 4 vertebra of my neck and it doesn't matter I am still happy in my rebellious ignorance.

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                                #75
                                I might as well be happy RIGHT NOW, b/c that is all that matters.
                                www.myquadriplegia.com

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