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    #31
    p.s. just looked at her kid. So cute!
    If there is light
    it will find
    you

    --Charles Bukowski

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      #32
      Originally posted by CurlieQCarrie View Post
      Yes, Mem. I thought it said she had no problems before pregnancy. That's what is sort of scary, for me at least. I am not in the planning stages of pregnancy or anything (have to find/keep a suitable man first!), but it's always been a concern for me. I don't know what it will do to my body, and in turn, way of life afterwards. A baby would be difference enough without worrying about health issues.

      Anyway, if she somehow finds her way to CC, I hope she can get some support and maybe find something to help her get to the root of the problem.
      Carrie, what has happened to her is scary. Your concerns are understood.

      I know of women (paras and quads) who have had successful pregnancies without the complications Michelle has had. Many, it seems, had UTIs during pregnancy. Other issues were extreme fatgue (a common complaint first trimester for many women ab or dis), excessive urine leakage, greater balance issues than the norm and increased difficulty transferring. This is anecdotal, not statiscal.

      I, too, hope she finds her way here if she has not already.

      Yes, Michelle's son is a real cutie! That's one adorable child.

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        #33
        I got my first UTI when I was pregnant with my daughter 25 years ago, no trouble before that and then it has been worse and more worse.
        TH 12, 43 years post

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          #34
          Darn, I thought I taped the update, but instead it was the original one.

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            #35
            I tend to do this often on this site, but I'd just like to reiterate why I created this thread. It was out of genuine concern for Michelle, and a desire to help her or find help for her so that she could go back to leading a productive life like she had before her pregnancy.

            As I was watching the documentary, I thought I would post on CC to see if anyone knew her, or could contact her with information regarding a specialist or a rehab centre that may be able to help her. The conversation that took place after my original post turned into something else.

            I hope if Michelle does come to this site, she sees that we all want the best for her, especially because I believe she can be an even better mother than she already is, if her health can be more stable. It will also allow her to have an active dating life, a desire she expressed in the update. The original post came from a good place, trust me.

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              #36
              Originally posted by KiranA View Post
              I tend to do this often on this site, but I'd just like to reiterate why I created this thread. It was out of genuine concern for Michelle, and a desire to help her or find help for her so that she could go back to leading a productive life like she had before her pregnancy.

              As I was watching the documentary, I thought I would post on CC to see if anyone knew her, or could contact her with information regarding a specialist or a rehab centre that may be able to help her. The conversation that took place after my original post turned into something else.

              I hope if Michelle does come to this site, she sees that we all want the best for her, especially because I believe she can be an even better mother than she already is, if her health can be more stable. It will also allow her to have an active dating life, a desire she expressed in the update. The original post came from a good place, trust me.
              Hi KiranA,

              I know you didn't mean this to be a negative post by any means. I don't know why people don't think about what impact negative posts can have on the person reading it about themself. It's like dealing with bullies in school when you were younger but at a much higher level. Some people can make it through it while others don't. It's happening more and more these days due to what people post in response to reading something without thinking anymore. In the old days you had to actually confront the person face to face so not much was actually said but sadly times have changed. I'm 42, we didn't have the internet or cell phones back then. Too many people are getting hurt mentally these days because people don't stop to think twice about what effect their post or text is going to have on the person reading it. It takes bullying to a totally different level these days. I like the old saying " If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all". I think there's always a positive way to say things to help people when they have a problem.

              I hope to see Michelle posting here soon. I think we can all be a great source of help to her.
              Last edited by sreneet; 19 May 2010, 1:16 AM.
              Renee

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                #37
                I was glad someone posted this Kiran because I really became concerned after watching it too. I just want her to know as much about her injury and care as possible.

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                  #38
                  The responses in this thread are not akin to bullying, which is a deliberate and intentional act of hurting someone. The posts in this thread are observations and conclusions -- some compassionate, some not so flattering -- drawn by people based on information they were presented in a series of TV documentaries, period. None were made with the intention of deliberately hurting Michelle.

                  It's great that those who know more about what's going on have come forth to help clear up misconceptions that exist by providing new info of which those who only saw the documentaries were not aware. The shaming and browbeating of those who shared an unflattering opinion, however, is absolutely uncalled for.

                  People disagree about the life choices other make all the time. When someone makes their story known -- be it through a post on CC, a blog, or a documentary -- they open themselves to public comment. Expecting that any observation that isn't 100 percent supportive should never be expressed lest the person who shared their story get their feelings get hurt is absurd.
                  It is easier to find men who will volunteer to die, than to find those who are willing to endure pain with patience.

                  ~Julius Caesar

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                    #39
                    ya that is one cute kid!! imho, i think ppl who decide, plan and get pregnant are brave. i have a continuing replay of that scene from the movie alien juxtaposed with the birthing video from health class and i have kept a vow of celibacy since lol (i'm not joking)

                    it's great to know more info about her situation. one hour docus rly dont seem to cut the mustard as far as showing all sides to a story. i rly hope she can get some answers i know the feeling of being constantly ill and seeing dr after dr and not having any answers. :/
                    "Smells like death in a bucket of chicken!"
                    http://www.elportavoz.com/

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                      #40
                      Kiran, I was not referring to you or your post in starting this thread. I understand why you began this thread.

                      Honestly, watching the second doc left me feeling unbelievably sad.

                      That said, if anyone reading this looks at some of the comments in this thread, there are some which are not helpful. Period. However, it's the Internet and CCC at that. Paralysis is so much an attack on the total person it's darned near impossible not to react to what we see and read of others and apply our own experiences to that person as though those are gospel for all.

                      THC, I'm not dissing all comments and I'm not going to address specific comments about Michelle point by point. This is about her. I am firm in my belief and statement that Michelle needs support, not condemnation. That is not a wrong thing to believe, want, hope and feel for her or any of us.

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                        #41
                        Ah geez. I also had the same feelings that it wouldn't work while watching the first one. I definitely don't want to watch the follow up. How heartbreaking for that family.

                        Did she look as unhealthy in the follow-up as in the first one? She looked extremely so imo. She looked healthy, it seemed in pictures, when she was first injured.

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                          #42
                          Wow, I just read this thread from the beginning & I'm shocked. We all have opinions, but I would hate to hear some of these comments about me if I were her.

                          I question having a child daily. I want one. It is my right to have one. I would be a great parent & my child would be wonderfully cared for. It would never be my intention for them to be my caregiver or assist me in anything a normal child wouldn't be expected to.

                          What stops me is the what-if's, they're endless & yes, when you have a disability should be considered even more so.

                          We have some great moms here & even quad mom, Emi, which is an idol to me. We know it can work through seeing these women.

                          We can't bad mouth this woman or judge her. She & her husband never fathomed this. Same as a woman suffering a stroke during childbirth rendering her to be unable to be the mom she thought she'd be. Some of these comments make me feel like she's being compared to a homeless crack addict that should've kept her legs closed.

                          If I choose to have a baby & something goes wrong, atleast I know exactly where not to come for support.

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                            #43
                            If my comments are among the ones that people found too harsh I would like to clarify that I was not making them in a mean spirited way. Some combination of bad medical advice, inadequate peer support and a lack of knowledge of SCI has left this woman in a bad health situation.

                            She is computer and internet capable so I hope that she educates herself and can find a way to get upright and healthier. Custom fit full length compression stockings, abdominal binders, medicine like Fludrocortisone etc. all need to be tried if she has not already. Maybe her problem will not be solved by trying these things but I hope that she can try everything possible.

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                              #44
                              Hi everyone I'm new here. I'm a c6-7 quadriplegic. I was injured in May 2006 due to collision in a flag football game. I was in rehab when Michelle's first documentary first aired. At the time I was depressed and seeing her documentary gave me hope that I could have a somewhat normal life. I had my DVR record the update documentary and I watched last night. I wasn't surprised that Michelle and her husband divorced. But I think he will always love her and he treats her very well. I really hope Michelle gets her medical problems resolved or at least alleviated.

                              After watching both documentaries on Michelle I do have fears of getting pregnant and being a mother. I'm engaged but my fiance is currently living overseas because he is in the Air Force. The earliest we would be getting married is maybe 2012. Michelle seems like a good mom but I felt bad for her because of all she had to deal with. I thought it was weird that she didn't mention the negative results that could come with always lying down.

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                                #45
                                If I choose to have a baby & something goes wrong, atleast I know exactly where not to come for support.
                                Michelle didn't come here for support. She didn't approach anyone here for anything. She simply appeared in a series of documentaries that people watched and are discussing.
                                It is easier to find men who will volunteer to die, than to find those who are willing to endure pain with patience.

                                ~Julius Caesar

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