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    #61
    I didn't deserve this, and my life before this injury was the best. I was so happy.

    I'd rather have cancer or do time, than endure this. I didn't think in a million years THIS would happen. I figured I'd get lung cancer from smoking before enduring something like this.

    This is terrible. It has ruined my life.

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      #62
      Originally posted by Imight
      I didn't deserve this, and my life before this injury was the best. I was so happy.

      I'd rather have cancer or do time, than endure this. I didn't think in a million years THIS would happen. I figured I'd get lung cancer from smoking before enduring something like this.

      This is terrible. It has ruined my life.
      You ever seen anyone die of cancer? It's way, way worse than being SCI
      C5/6 incomplete

      "I assume you all have guns and crack....."

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        #63
        I don't believe anyone deserves a life like this; however, I think you can become your own prisoner if you choose to. It is surely, not an easy life but like Forest Gump, life is a like a box of chocolates(I think I have heard that said here before or someone signnature line?), you don't know what you are going to get until you take a bite. Some are good and some are just horrible.
        "I've got to keep breathing. Because tomorrow, the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?"

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          #64
          Originally posted by Imight
          I didn't deserve this, and my life before this injury was the best. I was so happy.

          I'd rather have cancer or do time, than endure this. I didn't think in a million years THIS would happen. I figured I'd get lung cancer from smoking before enduring something like this.

          This is terrible. It has ruined my life.

          I can promise you, my friend, cancer is a freaking monster and your tune would change, don't go there! Have you known a loved love or watched a love one die painfully, have the life being sucked out of their body by cancer?
          "I've got to keep breathing. Because tomorrow, the sun will rise. Who knows what the tide could bring?"

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            #65
            im just a year out so im a newbie to this..but i believe as wheelchair users we are still capable of so much more..you are only limited by your imagination..i think if you really want to, you can change your life for the better...i know, easier said than done but once you get going it gets easier!
            The best way to predict the future is to invent it.

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              #66
              Originally posted by Riaan
              I dived into a river and broke my neck,also would not say i was sober but also not drunk,just a hot day and went for a swim. Im still having my drinks and trying to make the best out of a bad thing. 1 thing that that i can say happened for the better is that im living closer to God now cause his my only hope and gives me strenght threw this bad time.
              i agree, here iam on june 3rd 07 passing a car wreck, lost, said a mental prayer for the victums, 5 minutes later i lose control doing 70mph, i felt no control of it and i flip 5 times, no seat belt when i always wear one, but its a done deal but here iam, with a relationship with JESUS and it helps me get by, thats the truth..... if it wasnt for my spirituality i be lost....
              life begins when you walk in spirit papito189@gmail.com

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                #67
                Originally posted by Imight
                I didn't deserve this, and my life before this injury was the best. I was so happy.

                I'd rather have cancer or do time, than endure this. I didn't think in a million years THIS would happen. I figured I'd get lung cancer from smoking before enduring something like this.

                This is terrible. It has ruined my life.
                this really surprised me!

                i'd loooove to still be able to walk.

                funny, what is one person's hell is another's idea of nearly heaven!

                the more posts that come online in this thread the more apparent to me that it sure seems it is all a matter of personal choice as to the perspectives with which we choose to define ourselves.

                ain't it beautiful!!

                sometimes the universe makes me smile.
                Last edited by Oddity; 7 Sep 2008, 8:35 PM. Reason: horrible spelling mistake...like reeeally bad ;)
                "I have great faith in fools; self-confidence my friends call it." - Edgar Allen Poe

                "If you only know your side of an issue, you know nothing." -John Stuart Mill, On Liberty

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                  #68
                  Originally posted by Lindox
                  [...]
                  All the romance attributed to it kinda makes me gag.
                  awww...come on...there's nothing wrong with a little romance, is there?

                  a little romanticizing can turn despair into hope!

                  one of my favorite musicians once said:

                  "World peace will be achieved when the power of love overcomes the love of power." - Jimi H.

                  I believe he saw the world through a romantic's mind.

                  How about a twist, just as true, IMO:

                  "Inner peace will be achieved when the power of love overcomes the love of things lost." - Dale B.
                  "I have great faith in fools; self-confidence my friends call it." - Edgar Allen Poe

                  "If you only know your side of an issue, you know nothing." -John Stuart Mill, On Liberty

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                    #69
                    Originally posted by Imight
                    I didn't deserve this, and my life before this injury was the best. I was so happy.

                    I'd rather have cancer or do time, than endure this. I didn't think in a million years THIS would happen. I figured I'd get lung cancer from smoking before enduring something like this.

                    This is terrible. It has ruined my life.
                    No, I disagree with you big time here as well. While this isn;t what I expected to be doing right now, I would take this over cancer any day. It isn;t fatal for starters! I would rather be sitting here, relatively healthy, that dealing with all the health issues from cancer!

                    It does go to show how different everyone;s perceptions here are. Not trying to start anything with you, and I understand that this is hard for you, and you are very new, but you have things a lot better than most on here. I hope as time goes on you find this easier to deal with.
                    T7-8 since Feb 2005

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                      #70
                      Originally posted by sjean423
                      No, I disagree with you big time here as well. While this isn;t what I expected to be doing right now, I would take this over cancer any day. It isn;t fatal for starters! I would rather be sitting here, relatively healthy, that dealing with all the health issues from cancer!
                      I think that's the point. Cancer can often kill you relatively quickly, but you can live with an incurable condition for decades.

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                        #71
                        I would choose all of the above options.

                        It has helped me down off my high horse, got my priorities in line a lot quicker, and helping me pay for school. I can smell bullshit coming from people a mile away. I can generally read people a lot better. All in all, I don't feel as jaded to how precious this experience life is.

                        It has ruined my life. I've always had this drive for 100% independence, and i can't realistically see that happening for me. It took a possible dance career from me, it took my spontaneity from me. It's taken a lot of money and a lot of opportunities from me. It's take a couple different potential futures from me.

                        It probably did save my life, because at the time I was going out of control. I just got out of an abusive relationship so going from one end of the scale to the opposite, where I did anything and everything I wanted regardless of consequences, offed my moral equilibrium. Who's to say something else wouldn't have "shown the error of my ways" but with the path I started paving myself, it seemed that something worse was coming down the road.

                        For the most part, I'm ok with it. I'm convinced I could have to deal with much worse than this. Nothing else to do but make the best of it. If you can't change the situation, change your attitude about it. It takes too much energy to fight what can't be fought.
                        Courage, it would seem, is nothing less than the power to overcome danger, misfortune, fear, injustice, while continuing to affirm inwardly that life with all its sorrows is good; that everything is meaningful even if in a sense beyond our understanding; and that there is always tomorrow.
                        -Dorothy Thompson

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                          #72
                          nice loaded question.

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                            #73
                            Originally posted by Juke_spin
                            Cass, your poll/thread demonstrates what so many miss when posting and others seem to know intuitively. Covering even close to a maximum of possible choices mayn't be the way to go to get members to engage and come forward. Notice how Adi's topics used to generate a huge amt. of interest and participation? The informal way you opened this one made many feel relaxed and open to respond.

                            Anyway, I'm rambling but I think/hope you get what I'm saying.
                            ty steve. not that i could or would dare to touch this thread. but i thought if i asked again, could it be done better? i realize my poll was simplistic. and many have responded to all 4 things with stories. i have found every one to be so very touching, whether it be tears or smiles. i also have to say, i am a bit surprised at the %.

                            given the comments, i think i neglected a choice for all of the above. anyway, i think it was everybody's stories that matter, not stats.

                            ty everybody for sharing.

                            and to add to chris's comments, as a c7 quad of 22 yrs, i'll admit my attitude has changed with yrs of injury. not to discourage anyone newly injured, for you have the best hope of recovery.
                            Last edited by cass; 8 Sep 2008, 1:30 AM.

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                              #74
                              Originally posted by Seenkid101
                              Sorry if this post offends anyone
                              Not in the slightest. What you're saying is basically that life isn't always perfect when someone is AB and it doesn't have to suck just because one has a disability. That's not offensive, that's just common sense. What is offensive is when otherwise healthy people with low level injuries, outiside support, the opportunity for education and/or existing financial stability proclaim that life with a disability is utterly without value and that even a painful, lingering death is preferable to a lifetime of inconvenience. I don't care who it pisses off if I say this, THAT attitude is what is offensive. I can forgive an AB person who makes such statements. Their ignorance is curable. But when someone who knows many people with more severe disabilities who live healthy, productive lives still insists that their particular values or experience make it OK for them to state unequivocably that a SCI is a fate worse than death, I have little sympathy or patience. Those people insult me personally and by making their statements public, they may influence others who will then treat me with consideration to those ignorant and limiting beliefs.

                              And just so I'm clear. I am including Imight (among others) in consideration here (but not the poster, Seenkid101, that I quoted above). I don't want to be one of those people who refers only obliquely to people that I am referencing. It looks cowardly and weak. I would prefer to be considered blunt and judgemental. You, sir, need to seek help. I do not say that glibly or with malice. I mean it with all sincerity. You need help in adjusting to your new normal. You need help in seeking perspective and balance in your worldview. I hope you find it soon.

                              C.
                              Last edited by Tiger Racing; 8 Sep 2008, 4:28 PM.

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                                #75
                                Originally posted by Daleb
                                awww...come on...there's nothing wrong with a little romance, is there?

                                a little romanticizing can turn despair into hope!

                                one of my favorite musicians once said:

                                "World peace will be achieved when the power of love overcomes the love of power." - Jimi H.

                                I believe he saw the world through a romantic's mind.

                                How about a twist, just as true, IMO:

                                "Inner peace will be achieved when the power of love overcomes the love of things lost." - Dale B.
                                daleb,
                                I have no despair. This process leaves you two choices..accept it and go on..or don't.
                                I accepted it's challenges MANY years ago. But will never ever as long as I live call it my friend. Friends don't treat friends like this shit treats us.

                                I am in great physical shape actually for my age and NO credit can be given to my specific disability which fights every effort you put forward. No it's not my friend. And doesn't even know what romance is. IT is an it. And needs to be eliminated from this world.

                                Nobody made AIDS or Cancer a wonderful experience that made anybodies life better thus they have had the lion's share of the cure dollars..oh how the AB public loves it when we go all courageous on them..it takes them off the hook. It's fact learn from us old polios..if you don't pitch a major bitch you will be the same as you are today oh let's see fifty years from now. Oh JOY. Romantic as hell isn't it?

                                Problem is you won't be the same. That might be tolerable..you will well don't wait and see.
                                Life isn't about getting thru the storm but learning to dance in the rain.

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