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    #31
    While I think this is an absurd question, who deserves a spinal cord injury anyways, I often wonder what would have happened if I hadn't gotten hurt. I was drinking a lot back then and not because I was depressed about because I was partying constantly. I didn't always make sure I had a designated driver and I often wonder if I would have killed someone drunk driving. To answer the question, this absolutely ruined my life. I had a good career going, something that according to my family I was destined to do, was making lots of money, had a beautiful girlfriend, a nice car and lots of friends all of which are gone now and not much has gone wellsince I've been hurt.
    C-5/6, 7-9-2000
    Scottsdale, AZ

    Make the best out of today because yesterday is gone and tomorrow may never come. Nobody knows that better than those of us that have almost died from spinal cord injury.

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      #32
      I voted I'm just ok with it. I know I'm fortunate that I don't go thru alot of sci crap such as pressure sores, pain, bowel and bladder but if I did I'm sure I'd be thinking differently hopefully I'll continue to be just ok. Now all I need is for time to slow down because I still have so much I need to do.
      A dolla makes me holla, honey boo boo! - borrowed from Honey boo boo child

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        #33
        it helped me. it gave me discipline, insight, the ability of caring, stronger love, reality, and although i have a long way to go and will until the day i die...it made me grow up. i had everything i wanted before. but when i look back, there were always things missing i ignored or settled with. at 18, what do you expect, life is that way. i wanted everything done yesterday. school, my crappy job, living at home with the fighting because of my younger brother, i wanted freedom.

        there are so many things i would never trade to be ab again. would i have gained all that later on? maybe or probably, but you never know when your clock gets sick of tickin, and i'm glad i have what i do now, right now at this moment. i don't focus on this as a poor me, i'm not who i was, i don't live the same, look the same, don't get the respect i deserve, can't pee or poo on my own, sometimes i piss or shit myself, fall out of my chair because i passed out or my dog yanked me out of it, but that's life! that's bat shit crazy, unpredictable, evil life.

        i'm not who i was. well, i am, but i'm better. i'm more patient and understanding. i have higher standards for myself and others around me. those standards are based on good things, not "what i deserve". i do look the same, i'm just sitting down. and if people want to look at me like i'm less than anyone else, then they can take a piss in the wind. as for respect, you earn it. i know that, and if people don't want to give it to me, i either didn't earn it or i never wanted theirs to begin with.

        i can't change what happened. all i can do is live my life how it's most important to me. keep my body in shape, keep active, eat well, *try* to sleep every night, and live a normal life. brooding about the what if's and shoulda coulda wouldas won't make things magically better.

        like i said, it helped me. i could have gained all that i have in four years eventually in my life, but since i can't get a do-over, i have it now because of something i'd rather be oblivious about happened to me. i can't change it. but i can change how it affects me.
        Never take life seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway

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          #34
          Sorry here I'm only one yr out but. What kind of stupid question, and what kind of relevanmce, judas h pahreist.

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            #35
            guy, many ppl have told me sci (over my 22 yrs of dealing with it) was the best thing that happened to them. they have told me it saved their lives, got them off drugs, saved them from driving drunk and killing ppl, etc. i know drug addicts who now do motivational speeches and literally thank whomever they were injured.

            just look at cali's answer (not that cali is/was a drug addict sorry cali)

            thus, my poll.

            i am actually kinda surprised at the numbers saying it ruined my life. mayhap, i didn't phrase options very well.

            ty all for contributing your personal comments. i think it's helpful to everybody to see these real life stories. turn off "reality tv" and tune in reality. too many ppl continue to sustain this injury with no cure or even good help.
            Last edited by cass; 4 Sep 2008, 1:44 AM.

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              #36
              I was injured 23 years ago, and I've done a lot of things and met a lot of people because of it. Since I was injured at age 3, I have no idea what life would have been like without the SCI, but given what I know, I say it helped.
              C2/3 quad since February 20, 1985.

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                #37
                Originally posted by cass
                guy, many ppl have told me sci (over my 22 yrs of dealing with it) was the best thing that happened to them. they have told me it saved their lives, got them off drugs, saved them from driving drunk and killing ppl, etc. i know drug addicts who now do motivational speeches and literally thank whomever they were injured.

                just look at cali's answer (not that cali is/was a drug addict sorry cali)

                thus, my poll.

                i am actually kinda surprised at the numbers saying it ruined my life. mayhap, i didn't phrase options very well.

                ty all for contributing your personal comments. i think it's helpful to everybody to see these real life stories. turn off "reality tv" and tune in reality. too many ppl continue to sustain this injury with no cure or even good help.
                i'm totally offended!

                j/k, it's cool
                Never take life seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway

                Frank's blog:
                http://www.franktalk-scurry.blogspot.com
                My regular blog:
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                  #38
                  Deeserved it? No freaking way.

                  Ruined my life? Absolutely, thanks to the pains that resulted from it, I was unable to have a life. Between pains and scoliosis-caused lack of balance, I could never drive, and steadily lost the ability to do ADLs, due to my upper back and shoulder blade pains and problems.
                  Alan

                  Proofread carefully to see if you any words out.

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                    #39
                    Tonight at 5 am will be the 10 year anniversery of my DUI accident in which my cousin had died so yes I do feel as though I got what I deserved but I selected that it has ruined my life. I am a little depresed right now so it may not be the best time to ask.
                    Dave
                    C5/C6 complete
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                      #40
                      Originally posted by cali
                      it helped me. it gave me discipline, insight, the ability of caring, stronger love, reality, and although i have a long way to go and will until the day i die...it made me grow up. i had everything i wanted before. but when i look back, there were always things missing i ignored or settled with. at 18, what do you expect, life is that way. i wanted everything done yesterday. school, my crappy job, living at home with the fighting because of my younger brother, i wanted freedom.

                      there are so many things i would never trade to be ab again. would i have gained all that later on? maybe or probably, but you never know when your clock gets sick of tickin, and i'm glad i have what i do now, right now at this moment. i don't focus on this as a poor me, i'm not who i was, i don't live the same, look the same, don't get the respect i deserve, can't pee or poo on my own, sometimes i piss or shit myself, fall out of my chair because i passed out or my dog yanked me out of it, but that's life! that's bat shit crazy, unpredictable, evil life.

                      i'm not who i was. well, i am, but i'm better. i'm more patient and understanding. i have higher standards for myself and others around me. those standards are based on good things, not "what i deserve". i do look the same, i'm just sitting down. and if people want to look at me like i'm less than anyone else, then they can take a piss in the wind. as for respect, you earn it. i know that, and if people don't want to give it to me, i either didn't earn it or i never wanted theirs to begin with.

                      i can't change what happened. all i can do is live my life how it's most important to me. keep my body in shape, keep active, eat well, *try* to sleep every night, and live a normal life. brooding about the what if's and shoulda coulda wouldas won't make things magically better.

                      like i said, it helped me. i could have gained all that i have in four years eventually in my life, but since i can't get a do-over, i have it now because of something i'd rather be oblivious about happened to me. i can't change it. but i can change how it affects me.
                      Cali,
                      Very well said!
                      Originally posted by fuentejps
                      injecting is way better for your body. but imo opinion its the only safe way

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                        #41
                        I have long arms and it gave me a chance to test my reach.

                        I also got to go to college and having made a friend of a nuclear physicist in rehab who found the program and school and offered to write me a recommendation, I got to attend the University of Illinois at Urbana.

                        I've always regarded that the opportunity to go though the liberal arts courses at four different colleges was one of the greatest and most worthwhile of my life. Although I never had plans to use my education to find a profession and never did, the discipline taught me how to study subjects that interested me. Post my degree I returned to college on several occasions to take geology, astronomy, paleontology and other courses. On my own I persued a thorough knowledge of evolutionary theory and read Carl Sagan, Francis Crick and Stephen J Gould, which helped put the claims of creationism into a healthy perspective and give depth to these lines by T. S. Eliot.

                        We shall not cease from exploration
                        And the end of all our exploring
                        Will be to arrive where we started
                        And know the place for the first time.
                        Through the unknown, unremembered gate
                        In many ways I feel that I got more out of my college experiences than most do, including those who go on to have careers they needed the college degrees to help secure. However, if I had it to do again I think I'd get a good job in a science field and work for at least a decade or so for the money and experinence of doing science.
                        "The world will not perish for want of wonders but for want of wonder."
                        J.B.S.Haldane

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                          #42
                          Did I deserve this? Absolutely not. I was first disabled during birth. That injury caused cerebral palsy. No child and no family deserve that.

                          Did I deserve to have an SCI in '93? Again, absolutely not. No one deserves this.

                          Have I benefitted from it? No. However, I have seen times my dissed being has found ways to help others through my experience.

                          My Dad was very badly burned in an industrial accident. He lost much of the use of his hands. He has disabled hands to this day. I was able to show him how to use the backs of his hands to do certain things he thought he could not due to very impaired finger function when he first came home. He was burned in late December '79 and spent months in a military burn center.

                          I thought I knew from disabled hands due to my cerebral palsy. I did not. Enter SCI in '93.

                          I can see how CP made it so I had more of a mindset of "I'll find a way to get **whatever it might be ** done."' My CP'd self was all I'd ever known.

                          I had to employ what I'd done my entire life to my SCId body in '93. In one sense the CP helped because my life was about adapting my body, environment and objects to live dis in an ab world. My CP also made it harder because I was not ab when SCI came to call. I wasn't starting at the same physically high functioning level most others do. I was already knocked physically by CP.

                          As I age I find my body slowing and changing so I'm continually trying new things to get what I want and need to do done.

                          I think (hope) we all do this when we realize these are the bods we have. Some days are worse than others, but I'm still alive and still glad I'm alive the majority of the time.

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                            #43
                            I don't think anyone deserves this, and I can't say that it's benefited me. However, I have learned to live with my disability. I do believe that things happen for a reason. I was 16 years old when I had my accident, and I was the passenger. The girl that was driving was drunk, and walked away with a mild concussion and a broken leg. Even though I was at a party, instead of at the movies - which is what I told my parents - this is something that no one should have to go thru. I wouldn't wish what I went thru on my worst enemy! But, that was 20 years ago, and I'm lucky enough to have a beautiful little boy, and a fairly decent life, despite the disability and pain. I just try to see the brighter side of things, and not focus so much on the negative. I too have good days and bad, but I try to remind myself that things could have been alot worse.
                            Live Every Day Like It's Your Last!

                            C3-C4 and T12-L1 since July 1988

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                              #44
                              Originally posted by Doorman
                              Cali,
                              Very well said!
                              thanks!

                              dgrotz, i'm sorry you're having a hard time, my thoughts are with you.
                              Never take life seriously, nobody gets out alive anyway

                              Frank's blog:
                              http://www.franktalk-scurry.blogspot.com
                              My regular blog:
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                                #45
                                Originally posted by Doorman
                                Cali,
                                Very well said!
                                +1 more vote for Cali!!

                                the root of suffering is comparison. comparing yourself to others, to yourself long ago, to some imagined future. it's non-sense for me and i don't do it.

                                I'm not getting out of this 'life' thing alive, whether I 'deserve' to die or not.

                                i believe we are co-creators of everything that happens to us.

                                i was a co-creator of this event, even though i certainly didn't see it coming or 'deserve' it.

                                i didn't ask to get run over, but i bought the bike. i decided to ride it that fateful morning instead of go to the beach with my family. i decided not to wear my back protector 'cause it was so hot out.

                                every decision i ever made in my entire life led me to that intersection that morning, as did every decision the kid who hit me led him there too, with me, at that exact point in time.

                                hell, i could have stayed on the crapper for 2 extra minutes that morning and avoided this entire situation.

                                some like to call it coincidence, but i call it a convergence of 2 entirely purposeful realities.

                                i believe we live in a chain of causality and it's more than just one link deep!

                                the law of unintended consequences does not mean 'shit happens', it means, we make decisions everyday and have to live with the results, even if the last link in the chain wasn't 'our fault', i believe we own the entire chain, and are therefor co-creators.

                                based on this belief, i conclude (for myself) that hating this situation is tantamount to hating myself, something i can't and won't do.

                                life is too short...and with SCI, statistically, even shorter still.
                                "I have great faith in fools; self-confidence my friends call it." - Edgar Allen Poe

                                "If you only know your side of an issue, you know nothing." -John Stuart Mill, On Liberty

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