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    Pregnancy questions

    I'm a C5 quad who is planning on trying to get pregnant in the next month or two and have a few questions for those of you who have went through this before. I searched the archives, but didn't find answers to a couple of my questions.
    1) For those of you who are quad's (or even para's) who can not transfer yourself and use Hoyer lifts, how do you manage being examined at the OB/GYN with their high tables, especially in the last trimester? Was your doctor able to examine you in your chair if you have a power chair that tilt/reclines? I have a power chair that does both and will also rise up to and elevating position. I usually am able to get my gynecological exams in my chair, but am wondering how it will work when I'm pregnant and bigger. And I think it would be extremely hard to transfer me with help, not very safe I mean, on to the examining table. Also, for those of you who use Hoyer lifts, was it uncomfortable in the sling as you got bigger?
    2) Anyone on this site who is a quad who has given birth to twins?
    3) For those of you who are quads and do not have any hand (and in my case no wrist) function, other than having help from someone else, is there adaptable equipment out there to help hold and care for the baby some ourselves?

    Thanks so much in advance for any help/advice you can give me!
    CJ

    #2
    Hi Sunny

    You live in my neck of the woods Just curious why you don't adopt?
    Lynarrd Skynyrd Lives

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      #3
      Originally posted by FreeBird
      Just curious why you don't adopt?
      Just curious, why would you ask this? Do you ask AB women this who wish to parent? Strikes me as a very odd question - because she would like her own child, obviously

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        #4
        Because the world is so overly populated

        and there are a lot of abused and abandoned children in the world. ? is harmless.

        My wife is AB. She posted the thread and I asked a question. If your offended I don't really care.
        Last edited by FreeBird; 20 Aug 2006, 4:58 PM.
        Lynarrd Skynyrd Lives

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          #5
          Hi Sunny,

          I'm about ready to have my baby any minute - I'm c6, if you have any questions feel free to ask.

          I don't use a lift. My hubby used to just toss me in & out of bed (i weighed maybe 115) and he's a big guy. 40 or so lbs later, and it's getting rougher on his joints so it's good we'll be done soon.

          For ob appointments, getting weighed was the biggest issue. Hubby would hold me and stand on the scale. then we'd subtract his weight. We stopped getting weighed 2 months ago.
          For exams - you don't get many internals till the end. Hubby transfers me onto the table, cuz he's big & strong. 2 people could probably do it easily. With a recline/tilt chair, that'd probably work, especially if that's how you do exams now. they're not really any different.

          regarding equipment, I'm not there yet, but we've been working hard at modifying everything we can, and searching for workable items so I can do as much as possible. i can probably tell you more later. I've also seen lots of modified baby stuff here & there. Conact Through the Looking Glass, located in Berkeley. (I live in the North Bay)

          Good luck
          Last edited by alissa; 20 Aug 2006, 8:11 PM.
          "We must become the change we want to see in the world." Gandhi

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            #6
            I'm sorry I can't give an answer to any of your questions. But good luck.

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              #7
              Originally posted by FreeBird
              You live in my neck of the woods Just curious why you don't adopt?
              Yes you live very close to me! Do you have a SCI (quad or para)?

              I would like to adopt also actually. But I really want to have my own child and experience pregnancy once. Then I would like to do foster/adopt in a few years. I am a marriage and family therapist Intern and see many kids who need great homes, so I would definitely like to provide that for a child. I also want to have my own child with my own genetics and as I said experience pregnancy. Do you have kids and did you adopt?

              CJ

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                #8
                Originally posted by Ads32
                Just curious, why would you ask this? Do you ask AB women this who wish to parent? Strikes me as a very odd question - because she would like her own child, obviously
                Thanks for responding for me! :-) Yes that's exactly how I feel when someone asks why I don't adopt (he's not the first). I don't understand why people assume because you are disabled that you don't have a right to have a baby just like an AB woman. As I've already posted to his response, I would like to do both, have my own child to experience pregnancy and pass on my own genetics and also to adopt to give a child who needs a good home, a good home!

                CJ

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                  #9
                  I am an "AB" woman who adopted. So if you adopted you would be having a baby just like this "AB" woman.
                  - Moody

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                    #10
                    I have no helpful information to give, but a couple questions. By the way I'm a C-5 quadriplegic and my wife and I adopted a beautiful baby girl from China a little over a year ago.

                    Is there a significant amount of risk factors for the quadriplegic mother going through the pregnancy? I would think there would be especially with autonomic dysreflexia. Before we adopted, my wife and I went to a fertility doctor and I was surprised to learn that a woman only has about a 48-hour window in the month to conceive and that doctors normally don't do much unless you have been trying for almost a year without a pregnancy. It's amazing pregnancy seems so easy for some people! Are you going the in vitro route or the usual method? I don't mean to sound nosy, just curious since you said you are trying within the next month or two. And please don't think I'm trying to send any negative thoughts your way by the sounds of this paragraph. Having kids are a blessing no matter how they come! Good luck to you and your husband.
                    Last edited by doingtimeonmyass; 9 Sep 2006, 1:26 PM.

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                      #11
                      Doingtime, yes there is some increased risk for the mother during pregnancy if she has a SCI. The SCI increases the risks that already exist for any mother for UTI, constipation and DVT. In addition, some women with SCI are more at risk for pressure ulcers during pregnancy (esp. during the last trimester) and AD is a risk, esp. during labor.

                      While that may be the case, working with a good OB/Gyn who can more closely monitor the woman with SCI, and intervene quickly if such problems are detected, most women with SCI can have a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby. There is not a higher rate of birth defects or prematurity in women with SCI who have babies.

                      AD during labor can generally be handled with an epidural, just as pain can be managed in an AB woman in labor.

                      (KLD)
                      The SCI-Nurses are advanced practice nurses specializing in SCI/D care. They are available to answer questions, provide education, and make suggestions which you should always discuss with your physician/primary health care provider before implementing. Medical diagnosis is not provided, nor do the SCI-Nurses provide nursing or medical care through their responses on the CareCure forums.

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                        #12
                        I am a low para, but my DH came to all appoinments with me in order to help me on the exam table.

                        Can't help you with the other questions.
                        L1,2 Para since 9-12-99
                        ~*~*~Priscilla~*~*~
                        Mommy to William (2004) Lucas (2008) Nathan (2011)
                        The Wheelchair Mommy Blog

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                          #13
                          Pregnancy and SCI

                          I'm a c6/7 quadriplegic since 1993, mother of a very active 3 year old son. Hopefully my reply is not too late.

                          1) transfers: Was your doctor able to examine you in your chair?

                          I had a great high-risk OB and he did all the monitoring of my pregnancy externally. Ultrasounds, fetal heart monitoring, fetal stress tests, and all those were done with me in my power wheelchair, sometimes reclined, other times not. He did not do pelvic internal exams. For getting into bed or hospital bed for delivery,it was the 2-person lift, with one nurse/doc behind me lifting under arms, the other nurse lifting my knees to hoist me onto the bed. My husband did a lot of my transfers late in my pregnancy and after my c-section. (I highly recommend c-section delivery, DO NOT WORRY ABOUT HEALING TIME, THE HORMONES OF PREGNANY WILL HAVE YOU HEALING FASTER THAN YOU CAN IMAGINE!)

                          2) Anyone on this site who is a quad who has given birth to twins?-not me, but a friend of mine did. vaginal birth, induced. 5 hour labor, home in 3 days.

                          3) is there adaptable equipment out there to help hold and care for the baby some ourselves?--not much equipment, I made my own for the most part. Also needed to find and accept more help. A teenager 'mothers helper' person can be a great asset to parenting from a wheelchair especially in the first year or until the child can climb onto your lap. After that it's all easier. Even if money is tight, you will still need to find/borrow some to get thru the first months, paying for extra help. Church groups are very helpful, my friend with twins had church girls coming to help 5 days a week after school.

                          An aside: my health took a downward cycle during pregnancy and for 2 years afterwards. But motherhood is especially wonderful and I encourage you to follow your dream and try. Just be prepared to feel lousy and tired much more than AB parents. Plan for extra help, and extra time resting. Fertile wishes!!!

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                            #14
                            C5 with 2 boys

                            Hi Sunny,

                            I'm guessing I'm kind of late with my reply, but I have gone through 2 pregnancies (I'm a C5 complete). My sons are now 6 and almost 3.

                            My husband came to all of my OB appointments and lifted me onto the table. He also helped hold my legs, etc. I'll tell you, getting undressed and dressed on those teeny tables from 5 months pg is no easy feat!

                            Pregnancies were difficult because of chronic utis, and both times I ended up with pic line antibiotics for most of the time. My first delivery was vaginal, the second c-section. In both cases an epidural was used to guard against AD.

                            For adaptions for helping with baby, everybody is different. I used a pillow propped under my left arm to hold them, and a bent necked bottle with a modified universal cup to feed them. I used a thick blanket on the kitchen table for playtime (until they were rolling), and a bouncy chair on a table made to be a height convenient for me and them to interact. It all works out!

                            If you'd like to e-mail or chat through messages I'd be happy to correspond!

                            Lynneeeee

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                              #15
                              Sunny, I know how you feel. I am 35, not married, divorced infact. I came across this site on google looking for information on sperm donor. I wish you the best of luck in your journey to be a mom. I have been asked the why not adopt question also and not against it at all, my brother is adopted, but would love the chance to go through the experience of being pregnant!! If I can't do it, then adoption is a choice of course. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in these feelings and needs. Some people just don't understand why a single successful woman would want to do this. But there are a lot of "us" out there that are in the same boat!! I wish you nothing but the best and hope that you reach your dreams soon.

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