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    how many para parents are out there? How tough was or is it? We were thinking baby when we got married, started baby sitting our new niece and it is hard for me to do much now wife not sure she want to go through having a baby and having to do most of the work....is it really like that when being a para it is hard to help do all aspects of taking care of a baby??

    #2
    As a fellow para and the father of a 5 year old I think your wife's assumption she "would do most of the work" (post birth) is going to depend more on how much you want to do not how much you can do. You can change diapers, make and feed a bottle to your kid, pretty much anything a walker can do. Don't judge your experience baby sitting as a good predictor of having your own crotch fruit. If its your kid that you have to carry from the living room to the bedroom and put in the crib, you will find a way.

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      #3
      If you start out handling your baby you will adapt as he/she grows. I think you are probably a bit fearful of doing something wrong with another person's baby and hesitant to do as much as you actually can.
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        #4
        Originally posted by flicka View Post
        If you start out handling your baby you will adapt as he/she grows. I think you are probably a bit fearful of doing something wrong with another person's baby and hesitant to do as much as you actually can.
        Yup, totally. I'm a quad and can do it all alone if I try.
        Emily, C-8 sensory incomplete mom to a 8 year old and a preschooler. TEN! years post.

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          #5
          i'm not a parent but i am an older sister. i fed, diaper changed, bathed, clothed, burped, etc all three of my lil bros and i am an incomplete quad. it can be done!
          "Smells like death in a bucket of chicken!"
          http://www.elportavoz.com/

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            #6
            I have three children but was walking when the children were small. The big trouble was I couldn't lift them or run after them or carry them. But I think everybody find their way. I was changing diapers on the floor and they had to learn quickly not to run away from me. I was living on the fourth floor and it was a mess every time I had been in the shop and had to get up two children and my groceries. Happily I had a lift when my small one was baby, I could take the wagon with me.
            TH 12, 43 years post

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              #7
              T-9 complete single father to a 5 and 9 year old. I do fine with no assistance from anyone...

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                #8
                L5-S1 ces 3yr. old daughter i do worry, i cant catch her. i dont want her to see the pain. she seems to be adapting well to the new situation. we are learning together. she makes me feel young and has me cracking up all day. i'm tired at the end of the day, but who's not. well worth it.

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                  #9
                  T4 complete, raising my two daughters. Four months and five years old they are. No real issues!
                  Andrew

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                    #10
                    maybe we think to much?

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                      #11
                      This may be a red flag that your wife may not really want children that deeply--if doing too much "work" is an issue at all...seems like there may be other issues here...just a thought..I know the "work" doesnt seem to come into play when one desires a child to be a part of their lives.

                      When you want something badly enough..as you can see here--you will overcome any challenges to have it..and a child certainly should be wanted that much..no?

                      Also, even if you couldnt for whatever reason provide for the physical aspects-equally-taking care of a child is just as much about planning, organizing and "thinking" through issues and problems....believe me..the "brain" and the brawn are equally crtitical and needed..as the child grows up..
                      "The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.” ~Carlos Castaneda

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                        #12
                        i am a c5/6 inc quad for 23 years and mom to 3.5 year old twin boys. i will admit that in the first couple years i was more dependent on my hubby than i wanted to be (didn't feel safe getting 2 infants in and out of van by myself, couldn't snap the stupid onesies when they got a bit snug), but now my boys and i can go anywhere and do anything together. remember the helpless infancy stage only lasts a short time compared to the lifetime of moments together.

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                          #13
                          Reading This Thread Is What Got Me To Join...

                          Literally just joined the community and it was from reading this thread that got me to do so... I grew up with a father who was SCI (th-9) from the time that I was 12 til this day... all I can say is don't think too much. While I understand the baby issues, but wasn't a baby myself, having kids is a great thing. My dad did a great job with us. And sabmother is 100% correct - infancy only last a short time.

                          Good luck,

                          Ken

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                            #14
                            I helped raise my nephew and we are expecting our own in November. It presents challenges the same and/or different as anyone else, but it definitely can be done. Just set up barricades!

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                              #15
                              I just went to the LA Abilities Expo and saw Pats new carrier attachment for the Freewheel. It is a platform that attaches to the downtubes and sits on top of the freewheel, allowing you to carry more groceries, boxes of supplies, packages to take to the post office, and my guess is it would even hold a car seat for transport on front of the chair. I wouldn't be surprised if some pictures popped up here in the next few days, and I will ask pat to pop in with some images if he has them as well.
                              Mandy
                              ~Mandy~
                              SCI as a result of spinal surgery
                              TiLite Aero Z!!!

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