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    I'm going to be a Dad!

    My wife and I are adopting a 15-month-old little girl from China and we finally got our referral with pictures! My wife and mother-in-law should be going to China to get her sometime in June. I really wish I could go, but being a C5 quadriplegic in a power wheelchair would be extremely tough. Not to mention the flight which is over 20 hours and my care.

    I am now 34 and have been injured for almost 11 years. I too had some conflicting feelings about raising a child. Five years ago my wife and I were going to fertility doctors trying to get pregnant. She's wanted to be a mom since she was a kid. I worried if we had a son how that would be. My father was the biggest influence on me growing up. I worried about not being able to teach him the things my father taught me because I am unable to use my hands. After failed attempts to get pregnant we decided to adopt. When you adopt from China you are pretty much sure to get a girl. As time went by I started thinking about all the cool things I could do with a little girl. I started thinking about games and storytelling and how much I can offer her education wise. I realize my physical limitations will play a part, but we are just going to take things as they come.

    We know it's not going to be easy, but there are so many positives. She will have a lot of love and I figure the best thing I can do is to try to educate her and be there for her.

    We received pictures of her about a week ago and I can't explain the impact it's had on our lives already. We can't wait to bring her home. Here are the pictures of her, Alexandra. Isn't she adorable? [img]/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif[/img]
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    It's a long way down to nothing at all

    OMG! She is so adorable! I'm so happy for you! I'm sure you will love being a dad. Congratulations to you and your wife! [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img]

    Alive for 35 years
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      She is! She has a beautiful name also. Congrats!
      Kansas girls put the HEAT in wheat...
      If there is light
      it will find

      --Charles Bukowski


        congratulations she is beautiful i have 2 kids they make your world.
        For every minute you're angry you lose a second of happiness


          What a beautiful little girl, Robin. Congradulations! Enjoy every second of her and know that growing up with you will make her stronger, more compassionate and will open doors that you never thought of.


            Congratulations!!! You will have very different feelings about everything once she is with you... She will become the center of the universe for you and everything will be plant accordingly. She is going to be the only thing that really matters... But enjoy it. The smiles and laughs and those tiny hugs are very rewarding!!!!

            Good luck to you and congrats again"





              Wow, just wow! She's gorgeous, and so lucky to have a great dad waiting to welcome her home. Good job, Robin! Please keep us updated on her arrival.


              Sometimes I wonder whether the world is being run by smart people who are putting us on or by imbeciles who really mean it. - Mark Twain


                Congrats - great news! [img]/forum/images/smilies/cool.gif[/img]


                  Congratuations Daddy, Alexandra is one special little girl...she is also going to be a "pistol" that picture with the pig tails says it all...Good luck and play plenty...

                  Congrat's Mom and Dad, your gonna be in trouble now...he he he..



                    Congratulations to you and your wife. Wow. What a beautiful baby.

                    My daughters were 10 and 12 when I was injured in 2000 (I'm c4/c5) I thought at first it would have been much easier had I not survived my accident (the whole "less of a burden" thought process). Gradually, though, we adjusted and learned how to be a faimily doing things in alternative ways. I can't run around on soccer fields coaching anymore or help create props and sew costumes for drumline (my Mom and sister, Theresa, fill in with the physical "Mom" stuff for me, for which I am grateful). But, I'm there for the important stuff--just to be able to listen and guide is tremendously important. Yes, it's hard not being able to do some things, but, what is, is.

                    Best of luck. Enjoy your journey!


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                      What a wonderful gift your giving to this child, and to yourselves. [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img]

                      Take your hands off my MOJO [img]/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif[/img]


                        Wonderful .. wonderful! Alexandra .. such a lovely name! Of course the reason they start out so cute and we fall in love with them is so we don't give them away when they become teenagers [img]/forum/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif[/img] [img]/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif[/img] ..

                        Obieone [img]/forum/images/smilies/cool.gif[/img]
                        ~ Be the change you wish to see in the world ~ Mahatma Gandi

                        " calling all Angels ...... calling all Angels ....walk me through this one .. don't leave me alone .... calling all Angels .... calling all Angels .... we're tryin' and we're hopin' cause we're not sure how ....... this .... goes ..."
                        Jane Siberry


                          Awesome! I have 3 friends who have all adopted baby girls from China and they are all gorgeous and doing great. Congrats!


                          "Your children make it impossible to regret your past"


                            Thank you all for the kind words. Today my wife received her Chinese visa and will most likely be leaving sometime in June to get Alexandra. I will definitely post more when we know more and pictures when she is here!

                            Thanks again.
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                            I wasn't jumping for me it was a fall
                            It's a long way down to nothing at all


                              congrats! she's beautiful lil girl! [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img]

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                              - Alan Kay

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