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  • Ever considered moving away from everyone who knew you pre-injury...

    ...just so you don't have to be around people who get all weepy-eyed everytime they see you? My family and friends love me dearly, I know that, but sometimes I swear I'm going to go crazy by the way the mood changes everytime I enter the room?! Wouldn't it just be easier to just move away and be around people who didn't get depressed everytime they see you...just because they knew you pre-injury and feel sorry for you?
    May the fetus you save be gay

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    Dunno if its easier either way Theo. I never had the choice of family helping or being around every day. My take is, there are wierd people planted everywhere who "aren't" your family who also get depressed everytime they see you.<------- lol. I was in the store the other day sampling some food and the "sample" lady kept asking me if I had MD! (her nephew had it or something, so naturally the whole world of ppl in wheelchairs must too?) I said, No, then NO. Maybe she was hard of hearing!? she just got all loopy & emotional. Too much drama!

    People have that "feel sorry look" no matter where you live, trust me. On the otherhand, there are some good ones. Don't forget your weed eater, its a good thing to have to weed out the wierd ones. [img]/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif[/img]

    TAKE YOUR HANDS OFF MY MOJO

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    • #3
      hehehe...true, true, there are those sappy, weirdo strangers wherever you go I guess.

      i just hate being around people who know the "before and after tiffiny." i want to be considered whole, not broken [img]/forum/images/smilies/frown.gif[/img]
      May the fetus you save be gay

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      • #4
        I have one friend that comes over that acts like I'm not even in my wheelchair. He acts the same way the day that I met him. I know how you feel Theo because my other friends have a hard time facing me. It would be really nice if they would just bypass the chair because I'm still the same person. Boy, it pisses me off sometimes because if that's the way they feel STAY HOME!! I had to get that out.

        Time to ride not roll
        A good friend is someone who will come to bail you out of jail. A TRUE friend is the guy sitting next to you behind the same set of bars saying, "boy we sure f*cked up this time huh?"

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        • #5
          i know! GOI = get over it people! *stamps her feet disgustingly, in her head...*
          May the fetus you save be gay

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          • #6
            Theo,
            We have got to meet in person. Do you ever make your way down to Minneapolis?

            Sue
            Please submit your photo and story of hope:

            http://bridges2hope.unite2fightparalysis.org/


            http://unite2fightparalysis.org/

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            • #7
              Rollin' Rick said:

              It would be really nice if they would just bypass the chair because I'm still the same person. Boy, it pisses me off sometimes because if that's the way they feel STAY HOME!! I had to get that out.
              Do you really think that's true Rick .... reason I ask is because I hear this at CC all the time but truth be told my BiLL is simply not the same person he was pre sci ... that's not to say he's bad or evil or even depressed (I guess its possible [img]/forum/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif[/img]) ... but the Bill I remember before he was hurt is very different now in many ways - I simply accept the change ... this is a very difficult thing to adjust too as someone who cares so deeply for the injured one ... sometimes you just don't know how the hell you should act [img]/forum/images/smilies/frown.gif[/img] we just do the best we can !!!!!!!!

              Obieone [img]/forum/images/smilies/cool.gif[/img]
              ~ Be the change you wish to see in the world ~ Mahatma Gandi


              " calling all Angels ...... calling all Angels ....walk me through this one .. don't leave me alone .... calling all Angels .... calling all Angels .... we're tryin' and we're hopin' cause we're not sure how ....... this .... goes ..."
              Jane Siberry

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Theophania:

                i just hate being around people who know the "before and after tiffiny." i want to be considered whole, not broken [img]/forum/images/smilies/frown.gif[/img]
                I know. Me too. If it counts, I think your whole, and a nice chica. [img]/forum/images/smilies/wink.gif[/img]

                TAKE YOUR HANDS OFF MY MOJO

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Susan M:

                  Theo,
                  We have got to meet in person. Do you ever make your way down to Minneapolis?

                  Sue
                  I live in Minneapolis!! [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img] Where are you in Mpls? South Mpls here...pm me
                  May the fetus you save be gay

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                  • #10
                    awww thanks, liz! same with you, hun...you've always been a super nice person here on cc *hugs galore*
                    May the fetus you save be gay

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                    • #11
                      I live in Minneapolis!! [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img] Where are you in Mpls? South Mpls here...pm me[/QUOTE]

                      Burnsville, neighbor...lol. I will PM you.

                      Sue
                      Please submit your photo and story of hope:

                      http://bridges2hope.unite2fightparalysis.org/


                      http://unite2fightparalysis.org/

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                      • #12
                        Theo
                        I get the same feeling's. There have been times when I have thought about just getting in my van and taking off. And where-ever it takes me to stay or just to get away from it all for a while.

                        I am not the same man I used to be. and other's look at it too. Just makes me very upset that people will try to do everyting for you, that some of it you can do on our own. I DON'T want PITY !!!

                        You alway's get the people with long faces, I can't stand that, it is a constant reminder, Which I'd rather just go on and forget.
                        hope it help's some!!
                        Doug

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                        • #13
                          Hey Susan.
                          You don't live off Co 5 152nd? My sister has a house in that area and is always talking about a women she has seen in the neighborhood.
                          I grew up in south Minneapolis right off lake Harriet. All my neighbors were all rich-pricks that own homes just for the sake of having one in the city off a lake. Most all stayed away from MN. 50 out of the 52 weeks per year.

                          I don't think I ever had too many people giving me the long face but one thing I loved to do is make the lazy ass-holes in the world feel like incompetent little children.
                          I used to work at Home Depot in the limber department over the weekends for many years. (In Burnsville) Every now and then, I would get some guy that loaded up 2,000 lbs of wood on a cart then came to me to find someone to push the cart of lumber out the door for them. I thought "you baby" to myself, and would start pushing the cart myself. That always gave then the guilty feeling that a little guy in a chair has to the do a job for the AB's.
                          I love it when they say "I'll just do it myself". I'll beet you will you puss.
                          Bill

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                          • #14
                            My family and friends love me dearly, I know that, but sometimes I swear I'm going to go crazy by the way the mood changes everytime I enter the room?! Wouldn't it just be easier to just move away and be around people who didn't get depressed everytime they see you...just because they knew you pre-injury and feel sorry for you?
                            I am actually doing the opposite; I am moving back home, because the so called "friends" I had before my accident are not and probably never were my "friends" to begin with. So, I figure I would much rather be around my family where I at least know that they actually care about me for who I am. [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img]

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