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    Originally posted by Vindex View Post
    PS, you should be getting at least $750/month from the federal government plus probably some more from your state, at least a couple hundred dollars, I would imagine California is ppreetty good with that stuff.

    I would also imagine that California has a system where the state pays for personal care attendant wages for about 5 to 10 hours per day roughly.

    get yourself on the section 8 waiting lists to find subsidized housing that the state pays for mostly. that way you can find a regular apartment, that will only cost you about one third of your monthly income, that $750 or whatever it is, then the state pays for your personal care attendants for about 10 hours a day, then you get on food stamps to coverr $200 per month or so for groceries, start going to school and you and like I said, then you have a pretty stable life all set for yourself with good prospects for the future.
    Yeah, my situation has updated a little bit since I made this post originally. I’m going back to school and I am already registered to attend classes that start in two weeks. I definitely know that money is really the key to independence.

    Regarding SSI and SSDI, I don’t receive very much because I didn’t work very much before my accident and I’m also living with my family so I receive about 600 bucks maybe a little bit less. I am already signed up for subsidized housing but the waitlist in San Francisco is four or five years at least and any further away distance wise would be detrimental towards pursuing an education. I would need to move at least an hour away for any kind of reasonable wait time for subsidized housing. I could probably finish my education and most likely will before I receive any housing at all.

    Regarding nursing assistance, I have IHSS hours but that’s minimum wage pay period is really difficult to hire anybody for an extended period of time. Since it’s minimum-wage, they will jump ship for anything that pays more and I don’t need help for long periods of time every day so two hours shifts make it even harder to hire someone.

    I have thought about going through an agency but the licensed agency cost about $28 an hour while the unlicensed agencies are about $22 an hour. IHSS pays $14 an hour in San Francisco. I’m a bit torn on which to pick. The only way I would be able to afford and agency would be to have my mom receive the IHSS pay then use that to pay the agency. That has its own demerits because of taxes. I only need help for two hours in the morning and two hours in the evening but as you can see from The dollar amounts, if I were to hire an agency for two hours that would be equivalent to four hours IHSS. I could just tell that person that I could give them more hours in exchange for them agreeing to not jump ship. There are pros and cons to both.

    Right now I’m considering to simply hire IHSS for two hours a day then get in touch with an agency for short notice on call help. I have been calling a bunch of agencies around my area but none of them offer only short notice/on call help. I don’t really have a community to hire from either. I have been recommended churches and what not but this is only short notice/on call help. I wouldn’t even be able to guarantee asking them for help once a month.


      Suggest you look at recruiting college students to work as your attendants. Nursing, PT, or OT students are often interested in shorter shifts, and willing to take the IHSS hourly pay (which you are not allowed to supplement). Your turnover may be fairly often (every semester for example) but sometimes they can refer you to a classmate who is interested. Many schools allow the posting of ads for such work on their bulletin boards, and some will even have faculty announce job openings in class. There are several nursing schools in San Francisco, including UCSF and San Francisco State.

      Don't consider your idea of having your mother listed as your attendant with IHSS but having the work done by someone else that you then pay. IHSS would consider this fraud and you could risk loosing your IHSS benefits and even having to pay a fine. IHSS does spot audits on this on a regular basis.

      The SCI-Nurses are advanced practice nurses specializing in SCI/D care. They are available to answer questions, provide education, and make suggestions which you should always discuss with your physician/primary health care provider before implementing. Medical diagnosis is not provided, nor do the SCI-Nurses provide nursing or medical care through their responses on the CareCure forums.


        I found nursing, OT and PT students really responsive and helpful when I recruited directly. Also, they’re pretty flexible in terms of schedule.


          Originally posted by annev308 View Post
          I found nursing, OT and PT students really responsive and helpful when I recruited directly. Also, they’re pretty flexible in terms of schedule.
          I shot an email to the nursing program at the school then I’ll be attending. How did you advertise to the students?


            Called the Health Sciences Dean’s office and was polite, explaining what I was looking for and asking for guidance on how to best post the job to students in specific programs as opposed to through student employment. Reached out to associate deans for given programs. Got email addresses for professors whose classes had clinical hour requirements and/or components and career clubs and emailed them. If I had been living on or near campus or taking classes, the Accessibility Services folks would’ve helped with recruiting and matching.


              I understand where you're at. I am 29 years old, 13 years post injury and I m in a similar situation.
              I was injured 2 weeks after my 16th birthday on June 14th, 2004. My level of injury is C5 complete, but I can move my wrist.

              My screen name comes from the movie The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind