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    #16
    Originally posted by smashms
    Scraper I only post to things I know about. And the caregiver is there to take care of medical issues not get tea for his wife. They are there for the patient and to get stuff fo the patient not family members. In New York State it is not allowed. Not sure about any other state. They are there for the disabled person only. Not wife or other family members. And I was a caregiver before my injury and we were not allowed to do things for family. I worked in an assistive living facility.
    You are talking about when an agency is paid by the state to care for a disabled person. In the case of a PRIVATE person paying an EMPLOYEE, then the EMPLOYEE should do whatever the EMPLOYER says s/he should do. Period. We private pay our caregiver and he does what we ask him to do, whether that's something for me or for Chad. For example, he does all the dishes for the household every day that he works (weekdays). Obviously, 50% + of the dishes are generated by me and my son, but we pay him to work for US and that is one of his required duties.
    Wife of Chad (C4/5 since 1988), mom of a great teenager

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      #17
      "worked in an assistive living facility.."

      This is in a home not a facility. I've hired caregivers for over 26 years for in home care and if one refused to do as I asked they would be dismissed. Having one give a cup of tea to a spouse is not out of line. My partner is my primary caregiver, but does not preclude him from being treated as a spouse. He is not on 24/7. If I want to treat him to a cup of tea my aide will pour it, if I want to talk to him my aide will find him. This simply is an employer-employee relationship.

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        #18
        What Ben said.
        Wife of Chad (C4/5 since 1988), mom of a great teenager

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          #19
          Originally posted by Ben Rolfe View Post
          "worked in an assistive living facility.."

          This is in a home not a facility. I've hired caregivers for over 26 years for in home care and if one refused to do as I asked they would be dismissed. Having one give a cup of tea to a spouse is not out of line. My partner is my primary caregiver, but does not preclude him from being treated as a spouse. He is not on 24/7. If I want to treat him to a cup of tea my aide will pour it, if I want to talk to him my aide will find him. This simply is an employer-employee relationship.
          Exactly.
          Some people feel the need to give advice/opinion on every thread even if they have no experience in the situation.
          The OP was venting some frustration-let her.

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            #20
            Originally posted by LindaT View Post
            Exactly.
            Some people feel the need to give advice/opinion on every thread even if they have no experience in the situation.
            The OP was venting some frustration-let her.
            It is especially helpful when the poster seeking advice has been injured or dealt with injury for longer than the person giving the advice has been alive much less injured.

            CC is a haven for trolls in the last year or so but one can only hope they will eventually return to the bridge from whence they crawled out from under.
            T12-L2; Burst fracture L1: Incomplete walking with AFO's and cane since 1989

            My goal in life is to be as good of a person my dog already thinks I am. ~Author Unknown

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