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    Hey Marmalady

    I am sure glad you'll still be here with us. I don't post much but I read your posts and the others here on caregiving and you are a precious jewel in my life.

    I'm proud of you for taking a stand. I don't know what it is but knowing you- you're right.

    Music, to create harmony, must investigate discord. Plutarch
    "A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner"


      I feel Care Cure has lost one of its best moderators. This place is becoming a circus. Very frustrating!
      Good luck Marmalady-You were the best!


        In the spirit of updating, here goes. There isnt a whole lot going on, but I am trying to post here more often. Marmalady, your comments and support are wonderful. I hope that you continue to post, I know you have helped me thru some not so fun times (whether you knew it or

        My boyfriend and I have been having some exciting (rolling eyes) times. He has been in more pain than ever, I have been in massive pain, everything has been painful around here. I just found out from my doctor that the pain I was having was from fun.

        We have no idea what his pain is from. He is going to a pain specialist in march, but it cant come soon enough. He was laying on the floor the other day hoping that it would alleviate some of his pain. I hope that the pain doc helps...because if not, I am afraid that my bf will punch thru a wall or something.

        The job front for me has been tough...I have been searching for about 3 months now. Its no fun to be jobless [img]/forum/images/smilies/frown.gif[/img] but no one wants to hire someone with a sketchy attendance record...between the endo, and my bf being sick and needing me at home makes it hard.

        Ok...enough depressing stuff. We are doing pretty well, concidering. He is in school, doing good with that. I have been occupying my time with organizing...thats become my specialty.

        Anyways, I hope everyone's winter is at least bearable...its a little chilly here for my taste.

        There, I came out from under my rock...finally [img]/forum/images/smilies/wink.gif[/img] Thanks everyone for listening.


          Cheesecake, enjoyable parachute piece.

          Thank you.


            All right, folks - I will not let this thread die! Interesting week - aside from going through CareCure withdrawal, lost our day aide (don't ask), hird a new one, a guy !, so Matt's happy, and he seems pretty cool. Hubbie away for the weekend - lonesome here, he'll be back tonite. Writing a proposal for a business - not catering, but food related - if I can get the money guy, I'll brag on it some - VERY cool idea!

            You all are doing a wonderful job of passing that parachute around; funny how much we change, as time goes on and all of a sudden, we're the 'seniors' on the forum, and there's a whole new (unfortunately) crop of family membes and caregivers who need our support.

            You are all on my mind, and I thank you for your kind words and thoughts. And a special thanks to ChrisD, for even tho we've had our differences in the past, the present is now. [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img]


              I check in here everyday and it does seem to be slow. is that due to the nature of "caregiving"? My hubby smashed his hand between his powerchair and a table and i know he broke it but he figures, oh well they won't set it anyway because a cast will cause pressure sores. but i have to say i find that kind of logic frustrating!!! the swelling has gone down (it has been a week)but it is still pretty bruised and swollen, a little warm. Nothing is obviously mishapen so i guess i should let it go. that's my gripe for the week and i guess i should count myself lucky it is so minor!

              "We only become what we are by the radical and deep-seated refusal of that which others have made of us."~~Sartre
              "We only become what we are by the radical and deep-seated refusal of that which others have made of us."~~Sartre


                Sunday, 8 pm

                Bruce is on the phone, talking with a friend about the caucus he chaired yesterday. It was a first for us both, and a very interesting deal. Like most things in my life, both frustrating and exhilerating, with some poignant moments thrown in. We live in a very middle class, whitebread neighborhood. (Think pretty landscaping and cul de sacs, big trees and lots of yappy little dogs.) It's hard to know who your neighbors are, and this was my chance to find out!

                Our precinct (maybe a hundred houses) had 27 people show up, which was amazing. We were crammed into the gym at the local elementary school with 16 other precincts--wow!! Hundreds and hundreds of Democrats! [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img] Who knew?! I thought I was all alone in a sea of Republicans.

                I met some very nice John Edwards supporters, and one interesting guy who spoke up for Wes Clark, and a couple of earnest Kucinich people, and--sadly!--a bunch of folks who decided two days ago that Kerry is electable. LOL! Us Dean supporters were: me and Bruce, an Asian couple, an older woman, and a middle-aged Hispanic guy. All in all, a good experience. Caucuses are weird, if you haven't been to one.

                When all the talking is done, if your candidate gets a delegate, you have to elect one from among yourselves. I'm going to the county convention in May as a Dean delegate, oh boy. I had to laugh at the Kerry folk, none of whom wanted to be delegates. They were annoyed when they found out their caucus votes wouldn't count unless two of them showed up in May.

                Being Democrats, we were of course hopelessly disorganized, and I mean that in the nicest way.
                The "convener" was about 90 years old, and I think not a single person paid attention while he read us a whole page of arcane rules over a terrible pa system.

                Bruce was sitting at a table trying to sign people in as they arrived, but half of them didn't know their precinct number, so he kept having to haul himself to his feet to help them find their house on the map that was pasted to the wall above his chair. (I was totally hopeless at this, because I suffer from both terrible eyesight and a bad attitude about maps.)

                I did, however, bring a batch of homemade chocolate chip cookies, which I'm sure helped the whole process go much more smoothly.

                Sorry to run on about this . . . I actually have lots of other news, but it's what's on my mind. [img]/forum/images/smilies/smile.gif[/img]


                  I check in with you all, but don't seem to have much to say. Same old. New job is challenging, I have a trade show this week to get ready for. My Mom is having her hip replacement finally on Tuesday, it has been a long 2 months waiting.

                  Hubby is doing OK. He is opening a new office 1/2 mile from home which frustrates the heck out of his brother who I have issues with, so I am expecially glad. Hubby is President of the company which his brother would like to forget; but there it is,my husband works full time again, just differently. His brother has never attempted to understand what has happened to his twin or what is involved in his just getting through the day. As a result he has no compassion or comprehension of why things are the way they are.

                  Our son was accepted into the honors business program at Indiana University, same as our daughter, so I hope that is where he is headed. He was also accepted to a couple military academies and I pray he does not chose to go there. If he goes to IU he plans on doing ROTC. I have tried to back of expressing my displeasure (put mildly) because he digs in even deeper when I do. I watched Pearl Harbor tonight and when I got teary eyed my son enjoyed pointing out to me that my patriotism inspired him... I think he is trying to manipulate me.

                  Our daughter is running on a ticket for student government again. She is holding her own with grades and is very involved in many activities... one more year of undergrad to go. She is applying for internships now.

                  The dogs are still a pain in the a... The house not yet decorated, things still break and I go over the edge, laundry never ends and maintaining our cars makes me crazy. An apartment and bus travel has much appeal at times. I miss you all checking in, everyone Okay?


                    Okay--so for years I've been saying how much fun it looks to work at Starbuck's. Free espresso beverages! Good music! Happy customers! My kind of place. Why not? Yeah, I'm old enough to be the mother of most of the people who work there, but they're a step up after all those years with high school kids.

                    So . . . . I finished writing the book and sent it off to my agent in December, and since then I've been at loose ends--and broke.

                    And . . . today was my second day of training as a barista! OMG. It's possible I really am too old. I'll keep you posted.

                    In the meantime, the book is currently out to 19 editors in NYC, and all my fingers and toes are crossed. Hey--maybe that's why it's so hard to make a latte. You think?



                      Good luck at Starbucks!! Thats awesome to get a fun job like that. Congrats about the book also. Im sure everything will go well with it.

                      Things have been going really well here. I think I finally found a job (I have been looking for a really long time, so it will be pretty exciting if it works out). Things are good with my boyfriend. He hasnt been feeling great, but better than before.

                      I guess my additude about things has gotten better, which started the ball rolling for things actually getting better. Its funny how life works that way. Things start to conspire to work out well when I have a positive additude (at least sometimes, lol).

                      Gotta get back to housecleaning. Hope to hear that everyone is doing well.



                        How exciting,and you're a new moderator to boot!
                        Things with me and mine could always be worse. The bf finally made the appointment to see the Gastro Intestinal doctor. He goes in on March 2. The entire family has been down with a cold/flu/viral infection. No, I'm not kidding. As soon as one illness started to fade, the next one hit. I hope I don't jinx myself but, I think the string has finally come to an end.
                        We are getting a MAD GRIP of SUNSHINE here in the Portland, OR area! YIPPPPEEEEEE. I was just about ready to go get on anti-depressants! Ugh, this winter has beaten me up pretty badly. Hey, it's over and the bulbs are puttin up shoots and so, I feel better by force of habit if nothing else.
                        Take care all!

                        We are all faced with a series of great opportunities... Brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.
                        Arlington Cemetery is full of soldiers—the presidents buried there are few and far between. -Rusty VanReeves


                          I'm really glad to hear we aren't on the dark side of the moon anymore [img]/forum/images/smilies/cool.gif[/img]..........

                          Kate..Starbucks and an almost book deal... I'm jealous [img]/forum/images/smilies/eek.gif[/img] [img]/forum/images/smilies/eek.gif[/img] [img]/forum/images/smilies/cool.gif[/img] If you want my advice though...uncross your fingers and toes but not your legs [img]/forum/images/smilies/eek.gif[/img] sorry it just sorta popped out!!

                          Be well all!!
                          ~ Be the change you wish to see in the world ~ Mahatma Gandi

                          " calling all Angels ...... calling all Angels ....walk me through this one .. don't leave me alone .... calling all Angels .... calling all Angels .... we're tryin' and we're hopin' cause we're not sure how ....... this .... goes ..."
                          Jane Siberry


                            Oh brother.... I just read that back and I can't believe I said that.... [img]/forum/images/smilies/eek.gif[/img] [img]/forum/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif[/img] [img]/forum/images/smilies/eek.gif[/img]
                            Must be the last vestages of the aforementioned "cabin fever" coming out....heheheeeeeheheheeeeeee [img]/forum/images/smilies/cool.gif[/img]
                            ~ Be the change you wish to see in the world ~ Mahatma Gandi

                            " calling all Angels ...... calling all Angels ....walk me through this one .. don't leave me alone .... calling all Angels .... calling all Angels .... we're tryin' and we're hopin' cause we're not sure how ....... this .... goes ..."
                            Jane Siberry


                              Well I guess it is time to post an update of some sorts. This week was the first full week of school attendence for my kids since December. Yeehaa. Cabin fever has over taken the house and normally easy going dispositions have become cranky.

                              My youngest turned 6 on Thursday and tonight we are celebrating the big day at home. He somehow thinks that 6 is a magical number and that he is "All grown up". I brought him home 6 years ago today, he was born on a Thursday and came home on Valentines Day which was a Saturday. It seems like esterday but at the same time it seems like ages ago.

                              After many fights with the insurance company, appeals, letters etc. my 11 yr old was approved for growth hormone therapy. I never thought I would see the day an 11 yr old danced over taking shots 6 days per week. This process is supposed to start in about a week. I am not sure how I will be able to draw meds with one hand but this is supposed to be a "needleless system".

                              The snow is almost melted but another storm is supposed to hit tomorrow...ugh. I hope they are wrong. I am tired of being couped up because it is so hard navigating the ice, snow, etc.

                              Wishing each of you a Happy Valentines Day. May the sun start shining sooon!

                              "A hero is an ordinary individual who finds the strength to persevere and endure in spite of overwhelming obstacles"....C. Reeve 1998

                              Every day I wake up is a good one


                                Thanks for the news, Cheesecake. I remember those snowed-in winters all too well. Smell of wet wool and long, lead-sky afternoons of monopoly that always ended in tears.

                                We also have a child who needed growth hormone. She started taking it at age 9 and quit after six years; her predicted height at birth was 4'7". She's 5'2" now and I know she's glad for all the shots. When Bruce got hurt and all our family routines got shuffled, she learned to give them to herself, no problem.

                                When we started,I had to stick myself with that little needle before giving it to her, just so I could be sure I wasn't really hurting her . . . found out that if I did it right, I literally could not feel it.

                                The alternate delivery system was a "gun" thing that we found to be more trouble than it was worth . . . anyway--the stuff does work.