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    Wanted to introduce myself.... finally!

    Okay so I have been visiting this site for about a month now and have finally figured out how to post something.
    My name is Jen, i'm 33 and on February 12, 2008 my husband was injured in a motorcylce wreck. During practice another dirtbike landed on him. His level of injury is T-8. He spent 6 weeks in the hospital and now we are home trying to adjust. I haven't been back to work since the injury because I am his caregiver. I joined this site to get support and information on this stupid life-changing injury. Thanks to all who took the time to read this.

    Welcome wife. Lotsa good people and info here, an incredible amount of info here , first hand info too.


      Did he get any rehab? Can you tell us where? If not, he needs some, it is critically important to his future happiness and your life as a couple.

      Please try to believe me when I say, what he's like now is not what he will be like forever. SCI really drains the body. It's slow but we do heal. We go on to live our lives. Not as we'd originally planned, but we live, oh yes, we live.

      Feel free to ask any questions. So sorry you had to find us, but good job doing so. When I see new family members show up, it's always encouraging to me. It means the new SCI has somebody that cares, and that the somebody that cares isn't stupid!
      Does This Wheelchair Make My Ass Look Fat?


        Hi, Jen. Ask away. Since you've been reading for a while, you already know how helpful some of the people here can be. And how much there is to learn.
        - Richard


          Thanks for the hello and introduction. Glad you are here and I hope that your husband woill also find this site a useful resource. William


          ... rolling since 1989

          BE NICE!It's free

          P.S. ~ I have "handicapabilities"

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            Glad you found us and hopefully your husband reads along too. He is still in a huge adjustment stage but hopefully soon, at his level, he will be independant in his care and you can return to work and gain some normalcy to your life. Welcome.

            Life isn't like a bowl of cherries or peaches. It's more like a jar of jalapenos--What you do today might burn your ass tomorrow.

            If you ain't laughing, you ain't living, baby. Carlos Mencia


              Hi Mike and Wife - at 6 weeks in ... one day at a time. Read about the people on here and you'll see ... there's definitely "life after sci"


                Welcome mikeswife! As Beth said sorry you had to find us but awful glad you did!

                Stupid and life changing .....yup pretty much sums it up ... but life can be good again, you'll have to trust us on that! And when you think you can't take any more .. you find somewhere to dig a little deeper and take even more .. you'll be amazed at yourselves. Come here, unload or share the load we'll "get it" when others won't have a clue ..... you can't do this alone and stay sane !

                My husband is T5 complete and is pretty independant but I become his "carer" when life turns ugly and he gets a sore or is sick .... which I'm sorry to say is pretty often. Why don't you tell us where you two are in the rehab part of things. Maybe we can help get you on the right foot ..... so to speak ..... you gotta keep a sense of humour about this crazy sci life!
                Stay strong!

                ~ Be the change you wish to see in the world ~ Mahatma Gandi

                " calling all Angels ...... calling all Angels ....walk me through this one .. don't leave me alone .... calling all Angels .... calling all Angels .... we're tryin' and we're hopin' cause we're not sure how ....... this .... goes ..."
                Jane Siberry


                  Hi Mikeswife. Welcome!!

                  You'll find lots of information here. Sometimes a good laugh, and other times a good cry.

                  Keep coming back!!



                    oh well


                      Hi and Welcome! I had an incomplete SCI at T8-9 in June, 2007. I needed lots of help during the first six months after returning home from rehab. My partner was with me constantly during that time and I don't know how I would have gotten through it without her! Now, she works full-time and I take care of myself when she's away. Hang in there! Progress can be painstakingly slow, but progress WILL happen and your husband will surely appreciate what you've had to do for him during this vulnerable time in his life.
                      "The truth will set you free. But first, it will piss you off." -Gloria Steinem


                        So sorry you had to find us, but glad you did.



                          PS-At T8, with decent rehab, he'll be able to live and work completely independently, most likely. Didn't know if they'd told you that. You'll probably still have to change the overhead lightbulbs LOL, but this state where he is really dependent on you is only temporary.
                          Does This Wheelchair Make My Ass Look Fat?


                            Welcome!! I sent you a PM by the way.

                            I forgot to ask....Is Mike a Veteran?



                              Thank you everyone for your responses. I guess I should elaborate a little more. Okay, so after 6 weeks in the hospital we were both dying to come home, we just couldn't wait. As soon as we did get home, panic set in for me, I had no call button for the nurse, I was responsible for everything. I pulled through, though it was extremely hard. I remember for the first 3 weeks I would have to turn him throughout the night about 10 times and I just wanted to shoot myself (not really). I was so tired I could barely keep my thoughts straight. I was told in the hospital that 3 well balanced meals per day will keep his bowels happy so I cooked all the time too and waited on him hand and foot. He couldn't transfer on his own yet so I was alway hovering over him. I seriously felt like I was taking care of triplets. Oh yeah, and on top on all that, he was having several accidents (bathroom ones) per day so my laundry duty was huge! I got to the point that if the underwear were soiled I just threw them away, I couldn't take it anymore. So eventually he has gotten stronger, he can do everything for himself (except change the lightbulbs).
                              In June we went to a rehab facility called ProjectWalk in Carlsbad, Ca. They set us up for a home program that we do for 2 hours, 3 days a week. Starting this month, Mike will go to a place called SCI-Fit in Danville 2 days a weeks for more rehab. Just last week he bought a lowered truck and put hand controls in it so now he is as independant as can be and I couldn't be happier. I love him to death, we've been married ten years, but I was on the verge of having a break down. This have been physically hard on me (I'm not that big or strong) and emotionally hard on me. So that's our story in a nutshell. Mainly right now the worst thing he is dealing with is pain. There is soooooo much pain in his mid back that I have heard him quielty weeping inthe middle of the night because he can't sleep. It's so sad but there is nothing that I can do for him. We are locating some specialists in our surrounding areas. Someone suggested that maybe one of his rods is moving and the pain may be from that.