Hurt people hurt people

[marco25]

BigB ... ROFLMAO!!!! [img]/forum/images/smilies/biggrin.gif[/img]

~ Joy to the world, all the boys and girls. Joy to the fishes in the deep blue sea. Joy to you and me. ~ Three Dog Night

[Sci Mom]

Originally posted by BigB:

Wow, you two must love each other very much. There's a lot of passion here."

Boy, did that shut us up, because we SURE weren't feeling love or "passion" at that point. However, he pointed out that anger is passion too, that often the intensity of our anger at someone is mirrored by the intensity of our love for that person. So when someone we truly love or care about hurts/angers us, the RAGE we exhibit--often investing time and energy expressing that rage--actually reflects how much we care.

Gee, I never thought of it that way, but it's spooky to think that Chris Chappel has passion for me. [img]/forum/images/smilies/cool.gif[/img]

Actually, it seems to me that Chris has a lot of passion for maintaining the integrity of this site. I've observed Chris trying to bring threads back to their original themes, and trying to keep things balanced. Lately, that's been needed around here. Besides, I think anger is difficult to determine by the written word alone.

So, BigB..don't let it creep you out anymore. [img]/forum/images/smilies/wink.gif[/img]

[bigbob]

Thanks scimom and martha, a little humor goes a long way.

[lilsister]

hey, Is there something going on between Marcomo and BigB? Come on guys spill the beans.....

[marco25]

Originally posted by lilsister:

hey, Is there something going on between Marcomo and BigB? Come on guys spill the beans.....

Aww, darn! BigB, we're not fooling anyone! [img]/forum/images/smilies/wink.gif[/img]

SciMom, I agree. Chris feels strongly about the integrity of CareCure.

~ Joy to the world, all the boys and girls. Joy to the fishes in the deep blue sea. Joy to you and me. ~ Three Dog Night

[hubofagreatwife]

Originally posted by chick:

Metro, I understand your point about the "cycle" of abuse, but your example and/or comparison of child molestors to SCI is very inappropriate.

An SCI person will experience hurt and pain, some deal with it and eventually function emotionally well, while others may have more difficulty due to a mirad of factors- from insufficient supports to poor health and physical pain to financial strain, and so on. The inability of a person with an SCI to deal with these issues in an appropriate and productive way is very different from a child molestor, who is a predator and seeks to harm innocent children for personal gratification/gain.

There is no necessary "cycle of abuse" due to SCI, though there may have been some abuse precipitating an SCI, thus making the situaton and environment worse for those involved. SCI may cause some pain to all involved, but it does not cause abuse, or rather, the SCI person does not inflict abuse and create a "cycle of abuse" due to any personal pain experienced from just the sci.

A child molestor may have suffered from abuse/molestation themselves, which may have contributed to their engaging in same/similar (learned) behaviors towards others (children), but this is not always the case. There are many child molestors who have not been molested themselves and their molestation of children are not necessarily some acting out of personal "pain". Counseling and therapy will not change many of these molestors (as many themselves attest to as confirmed by studies), and there are many many who simply find perverse satisfaction from a variety of sexual and abusive acts against children- through child porn, child sex trade, child prostitution, etc.

Anyway, this topic seems to be veering way off course (from whatever it was supposed to be to begin with, though my impression -not analysis- is that it was more a projection of personal issues). On second thought, it is sadly actually staying on course.

HUH?

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